She brought her oldest daughter (22) with her. Her daughter had surprised visited her and I guess she didn’t want to tell either of us no to tonight. Her kid was pretty cool, and apparently gave me a glowing review by calling me “a walking green flag”. 🤣
She paid for dinner, which was unexpected. I knew I should’ve gone for the lobster. 😏 To be fair, I paid for drinks.
After dinner, and after her daughter went back home, we sat outside and talked for a couple of hours. We eventually decided to go back inside to get drinks, and she ran into a friend of hers at the bar. So we three spent the rest of the night talking and shooting the shit; we all shared our “war stories” from our marriages and raising our kids as single parents, and I got some good insights about women that I didn’t know I needed, and I found out that I’m a pretty boring guy. 😝
We walked her friend to her car, and my date and I sat on the tailgate of my truck and just talked until 3; then I drove her home.
What made it super interesting is that she flat out said that she feels she would have nothing to bring to a relationship, and that if anything she wants to be friends. But as the night went on, she also kept touching me (non-sexual) over and over, and even leaning against me at one point. When I dropped her off, she even said how she wanted to do this again soon.
Make no mistake, I did not feel any mixed signals. I believe her when she said she wants to be friends, and I’m okay with that. But I also had a good time, and enjoyed how unconventional everything was. It made the evening more pleasant because I didn’t have to stress about this or that; I just went with the flow and was myself. No preening or posturing. Just two single adults getting to know each other, and maybe becoming friends.
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Sounds really positive, well done man! I’m sorry you feel like you’re a boring guy, though – and I’m sure that’s not true! Who would choose to hang out with you for that amount of time if you were?
The boring guy comment was because of the conversation between my date and her friend, and how they were harping on a specific type of guy that describes me in a lot of ways, but they considered that type as boring. Ergo, I’m boring, but indirectly speaking. I thought it was hilarious.
Ahh I see! Haha, it is tricky when we start to see aspects of a generalisation that we feel apply to us, but I’m glad you took it in good humour!
What were the characteristics they mentioned of “a boring guy”?
If nothing else it sounds like you definitely confirmed her daughters assessment of you, and you got to have a nice time to boot. 10/10, no notes
Her self deprecation is concerning (and something I find off-putting in the way she said it), but her leaning on you is a huge sexual interest flag, despite her words saying otherwise.
She’s really into you.
Watch what people do, more than what they say. Despite the *boring"descriptions, her actions say she really likes your kind of “boring”… No one hangs out talking till 3 am with someone they find boring.
She probably would’ve gone home with you (again, no one hangs out that long if they’re not into you), but it’s probably better that didn’t happen - taking a longer time to get physical demonstrates patience and an understanding of what works better when developing relationships.
Sounds like you both made a good connection.
