Specifically thinking of stuff that make your life better in the long run but all kinds of answers are welcome!

I’ve recently learnt about lifetraps and it’s made a huge positive impact on how I view myself and my relationships

  • MooseGas@kbin.social
    1181·
    1 year ago

    You can only help people who want to be helped. That goes for yourself, too. You can’t help yourself until you actually have the desire to improve.

    • SoylentBlake@lemm.ee
      17·
      1 year ago

      In the same vein, wanting different outcomes requires different incomes.

      Take all your actions and add them up = this. If you wanted that not this, all your inputs need to be under the spotlight and changes made; including and especially habits, vices, behaviours, opinions, assumptions, collection and quality of knowledge, relationships, etc etc. Sometimes the cost or sacrifice from and of yr current self is large and largely invisible.

      Being uncomfortable means you’re learning. Learning means you’re growing. If you’re never uncomfortable, you haven’t reached luxury and made it, you’ve reached stagnation and have stopped ‘living’ your life.

      Choosing the lesser of two evils, or the devil you know, or never doing anything about a life you don’t like or want, is cowardice and will slowly crush your soul into despair. Choosing the unknown might end up sucking, but it might be better. If the known is guaranteed to suck, take the unknown - at least there’s hope there and despair, a feeling worse than pain, is a failing to find hope.

    • jetAEnglish
      3·
      1 year ago

      This is true. But if it’s somebody important your life, social pressure can help.

      Demonstrate the lifestyle you want to help them lead. Give them opportunities to join you, not pushy opportunities just let’s do a thing together. And you demonstrate the better lifestyle.

      No it wouldn’t get somebody off drugs. But it might help somebody exercise more or eat healthier if you normalize it