I’m 34, and i feel hopeless, ive been in relationships that don’t work out and i end up hurting myself, and i find it really hard to find someone who likes the same things as me, and i blame it on my socioeconomic status and my looks. I try to find somewhere to put the blame, but it’s obvious that it’s me.

  • ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.netEnglish
    4·
    3 hours ago

    What sort of person are you looking for? Liking the same things isn’t necessarily a requirement. I think values, humor, and personality can overcome a lack of shared interests (or where maybe just a handful overlap).

    EDIT: this lawyer gives some pretty damn solid advice on finding soneone.

  • LadyMeow@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    4·
    4 hours ago

    I guess enjoy your passions and try to meet people who share the same interested. Don’t focus on the gender or finding a date. Just enjoy yourself. Then, maybe you’ll be happy and alone!

    Hah. Or maybe find someone idk

    • GBU_28@lemm.eeEnglish
      7·
      6 hours ago

      This. It’s like interviewing. Even if you really need the work, you’ll be more confident and more engaging if you approach the interview like you are vetting them

  • jetAEnglish
    42·
    6 hours ago

    First be happy with yourself.

    Then, and only then, can you be happy with other people who are happy to just vibe with you.

    • 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.caOPEnglish
      3·
      6 hours ago

      I mean, i know what things in life that make me happy. it’s just, you would think at my age this shit would of been sorted out, but its like im talking into a echo chamber.