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Cake day: 2023年7月27日

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  • The Western business mindset isn’t compatible with this approach. If you have a business that has 2 portions and only one is profitable you split it and dump the unprofitable part. If the government forces you to do both you just cut costs from the unprofitable train making everything shitty for everyone.

    The Asian cultural Zeitgeist has more focus on stewardship so if someone gives you a responsibility (public transit) and a privilege (commercial hubs) you understand that the great power comes with the great responsibility. You’re still a capitalist and get rich as fuck, but society benefits too.


  • The worst part of this gif is that if you look closely, the robot puts its hands down after it removes the helmet gently like a human would. Yet even with this seemingly gentle motion it crushes and bursts the water bottle. If someone put their hands on the table they’d be broken.

    You can’t replace people with Tesla robots because these things are fundamentally unsafe. If there was a human serving water that bottle would never have burst. Water bottles would have been knocked down but no one would have gotten hurt. If someone had their hand there it would have been broken.

    A human wouldn’t rip Grandpa’s arm off to help them up. A human wouldn’t smash your hand because you got in the way of a motion. A Tesla robot would. It literally just smashed a bottle open by accident. There are NO safety features in these things. They’re as bad as Tesla cars where the slightest incident and you’re drowning in front of your loved ones or burning alive in front of a fireman.





  • Racial Disparities: African Americans, Caucasians, and Hispanics each made up about 31% of asset forfeiture cases, indicating potential racial disparities in how civil forfeiture is applied

    Cops stealing money from minorities, of course that’s legal. Steal infant formula to feed your baby? Straight to jail!

    Let’s see $69 Billion. 62% comes from African and Hispanic Americans. That’s $41.4 Billion from those two groups which make up 102 million Americans combined. That’s $405 stolen from every African or Hispanic American man woman and child over 19 years.

    Serve and protect indeed. ACAB.






  • But he previously said “Sex is for making children. Any man who has sex with women because it ‘feels good’ is gay”… So that doesn’t seem to match with him saying you’re supposed to have sex with many women for fun… What the hell is he saying!!!


  • If you’re looking for inclusive spiritual community you can look for Unitarian Universalist congregations. They’re all over Europe and North America. They’re based on progressive values instead of Scripture so you bring your own deity/pantheon/no deity. They’re basically a spiritual community for the left from Pagans to Christians/Jews/Muslims to atheists and agnostics and everyone else.

    In my area there are a lot of ageing hippies and a lot of millennials and Gen Z looking for community for their children which is a delightful mix. Lots of LGBTQ+ representation as well.

    Could be a useful place to look!





  • Fundamentally this gift is replacing something that has sentimental value to OP. That’s not usually a desirable gift. If someone got you a gift that replaced your favorite [thing] in a way that replaces it you wouldn’t want it either.

    Cheerfully accepting a gift you don’t like is dishonest. Other replies have great honest and tactful ways to accept or reject a gift you don’t like. Op’s approach was hurtful to their partner which isn’t great.

    Returning a gift is normal, that’s why stores issue gift receipts. However, it is a situation that requires tact since it’s easy to hurt someone if done poorly.

    In the long term, it should be easy for you and your partner to do something special for each other where no one has to fake enjoyment. In OP’s case, effort spent communicating now will bring a lot of enjoyment in the future and save a lot of pain.


  • Nobody is a bad person here and both of your feelings are valid.

    As others pointed out, your partner likely put significant effort into the gift and is hurt that the effort was in vain. Compounding that is the fact that you didn’t seem to acknowledge their effort or treat their hurt as valid.

    Your hurt is valid. You got given something you don’t want and now you feel pressured to accept it to appease your partner. It’s in certain ways worse than getting nothing.

    The situation sucks and you’ll both be hurt regardless of how you resolve it.

    It’s probably going to be very important for you two to work out gifts or gift giving occasions. What do you like to do, for yourself or with your partner. Maybe the answer to that question can be part of the solution.

    For the time being you have a few options. You can keep the gift like the others have said, maybe as a backup. Or you can return it. I suggest that if you return it you spend the money on something you both enjoy, maybe a nice date to sooth the hurt.

    Let your partner know that you appreciate the effort that went into this gift. Let them know that you know you’re a hard person to buy for, especially because you’re not very consumerist which means that the things typically for sale won’t appeal to you. Let them know that it’s important for you that you’re both able to express love towards each other and that you want to make sure that the next time your partner expends significant effort for you that they’re able to create a situation which is rewarding for the both of you.

    Then sort out what you’re going to do with this gift. Maybe explain your feelings about using the old device and how the new one can’t do that for you.

    Then make a plan to work out the line term goal of how you’ll give each other gifts/experiences in the future. And actually do it. It might be a lot of work, but it will probably create a lot of joy in your relationship in the long run where there might have been even more pain.