Hey. Just because you are different doesn’t mean you’re a burden. You don’t deserve to feel like that. Nobody should make you feel like that.

Even if these feelings aren’t coming from external factors I want you to know you’re not a burden and asking for help and advice is hard and I’m proud of you that you did so. Nobody has all the answers. Even the most out together people have struggles. They have things they aren’t good at.

Part of human nature is needing other people sometimes. Part of human nature is not being a good fit for every situation. You’re enough. You’re good enough. I know sometimes there’s a little voice that says terrible things about you in your head. That voice is wrong.

That being said, take time for yourself to figure things out. You’ve got time. You have a lot to process. Hug.

It sounds like perhaps you only agreed to children because you love this person and want them to be happy. When you discovered.that perhaps they could be happy without the kids you were relieved. But the other person in this relationship should also be willing to do things to make you happy. And it doesn’t seem like this is what’s happening. To me it seems like she has decided that having children would make her happy and is ignoring the fact that it wouldn’t make you happy to serve her own happiness.

I think it is unreasonable to manipulate you with what might be when there are no guarantees that you will be “better enough” in a years time or five years time or whenever. Sounds to me like you’ve done some introspection and figured out that you would prefer not to and you have valid reasons which include that you just don’t want them. That’s fine.

Now it’s time for her to decide if she can live with that. Because while everyone i currently know who didn’t want children but ended up with children (including myself) is having a reasonably okay go of things, that doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t be happer without children. It also doesn’t mean that their spouses could be happy without having children.

The talk you need to have, in my opinion, is one about how to compromise on those things.

I never birthed any kids. I never wanted kids. But I did end up married to someone who already had a kid and my kid is awesome. I had the benefit of getting to know him. I had the benefit of going into everything knowing that the kid was a deal breaker (he was part of the package, so if I didn’t want that I should walk away).

Loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean sacrificing your stability and the time you need to relearn who you are (because getting diagnosed and treated/ medicated is a process in recognizing behaviors you have inherently or have developed and coming to terms with the fact that a lot of the things you knew about yourself might have just been masking behaviors). Just because she sees improvements in your ability to manage tasks and regulate emotions etc doesn’t mean that you aren’t still struggling or that you’re in the right place to have kids. The truth of it is, even other neurodivergent people don’t necessarily know your individual struggle, even if we can better relate.

Her evaluation of your situation is one sided and colored by her own wants. She is not objective.

If you don’t want children, don’t make that decision just because she does.

I probably have pretty close to the top of the curve with 1140mbps up/down according to my plan. In actuality though my speed test reads at 864 up and 859 down.

Thank you. That’s what I wanted to know.

Depends. I often click on articles based on the summary because the article link is usually posted before the summary is. Sometimes the summary doesn’t really explain enough for me to understand. Other times I want to know more. But when you use chatgpt to answer a query usually you don’t leave that page in order to get more information and that’s the problem I’m pointing out. Usually you don’t even have a link to where the information in the summary came from either (my experience is limited to Google’s Gemini, which I don’t use, but which for a while was front and center on any query I typed in).

Not exactly. People don’t click on ads when ads are blocked. But ad aggregation companies get paid in a couple of different ways. Click through is a big one, but ad impressions (eyeballs that supposedly viewed an ad) are also a thing. And impressions pay, just not as well as clickthroughs. Ad companies haven’t stopped paying aggregates for ad space. That’s why ads on paid services have gotten more egregious. It’s not because they aren’t getting paid. It’s because they want both.

For what it’s worth, you can (and some do) pay for subscriptions to websites or services on the internet. But nobody is paying ad aggregation companies with the intent of seeing ads regardless of the reality.

Also, ad blocking as a whole is for security as much as it is for quality of life. Ad aggregation companies have a habit of taking the money and asking questions only when they get complaints (if then) and as a result, they don’t leave users who want to protect themselves another choice.

Of course, there’s also the fact that one way or another the web can’t just be free. Someone somewhere has to pay for the resources that make it run and the upkeep it requires.

The thing that’s mostly wrong with AI summaries is that people don’t click through to the page the summary summarizes. So those sites don’t get ad revenue. That’s ad revenue is the backbone of the internet for a lot of sites. If there’s no site posting the information then the AI has nothing to summarize and provide an overview of. The pivot to AI LLM’s is likely to kill the companies who aggregate links, and they’re pushing for it hoping to make it profitable in the long term because they’ve been actively enshittifying ad aggregation via search for the purposes of big number must go up (you know, for the shareholders). It’s defeatist to the current business model of most of the internet. And the shareholders do not care so long as they get their money.

Would implementing something like this prevent this problem?

https://discussion.fedoraproject.org/t/securing-fedora-with-fido2-utrust-full-disk-luks-gui-login-and-sudo-authentication/154136

I need more information. How is the malware being distributed to these devices? How can we check if our credentials are in this dump? Shouldn’t the respective platforms be doing due diligence to notify those effected and asking them to change their passwords?

I feel it may be fairly likely that this inforstealer Malware is the type distributed by dubious apps the play store and similar have had to take down but aren’t actively notifying users who installed them. Is it predominantly phones that are effected or is this malware PC based? Changing your passwords is important but sounding the alarm with no actual information is just… Ill advised. It’s fear mongering.

With her very pretty eyes.

I believe this is what was referenced in the Night Watch books by Terry Prachet. I have found reading this article to be both horrifying and fascinating.

Here’s a thing. There are people who have mental illness that absolutely does interfere with their ability to be honest about who and what they are.

There’s also a whole host of other things like neurological divergence that causes people to mask. Both behaviours and views to fit in. Some people know deep down that their beliefs are wrong but they are selfish about the investment they feel they have in another person, so much so that they won’t leave because they don’t think they can get someone else. Trying to boil something down to “you were married, you should have known”, especially when marriage for love in history is a relatively very new thing is kind of ridiculous. I’ve been married for 12 years. I still don’t know everything about my spouse or their views. And given that people’s views can change drastically over time, it’s reasonable to assume that one or the other person is going to disagree about something they may have believed a year ago or 5 years ago etc.

I’ve been married twice. I certainly wasn’t expecting the first person I married to leave me in crippling debt because he couldn’t take care of himself or be an adult. I had no reason to think he would just stop paying bills. No reason to think he’d get addicted to pills and hide it from me. People. Change.

Because one or the other person in the relationship isn’t being honest which happens quite frequently. People in relationships lie by omission all the time.

Could compete how? He gonna buy infrastructure? He gonna be an MVNO? (None of whom are really competitive with the big players because a lot of them are either regional, have to buy batches of data and minutes from the big three, or have pretty bad service). And who’s going to buy it? His supporters? I doubt that. This is just another grift.

I’m trying out nebula because I saw your suggestion and honestly a year for $60 isn’t terrible at all. But I’m having trouble finding creators (not because the app isn’t good but because it seems a lot of the channels I follow on YouTube aren’t on Nebula. I have two devices open actively going down the list of channels I follow on YouTube trying to find channels I want to follow on Nebula and so far I am striking out pretty bad. I hope I can get half the creators I follow on Nebula because so far it’s pretty decent from what I have seen. App is easy to navigate and pretty polished etc.

Is there a way to view who’s on the service (creator wise) before paying for it? Because if not that’s the major flaw with it.

This is why English does the thing. Thank you! Its something I noticed and know but couldn’t put into words.

They may very well be on to something (anyone who thought about this for a bit after the first announcement, could figure out this strategy, but it doesn’t include an important factor). Xbox is predominantly a console that lives in the living room. The most expensive Xbox series x is currently available is $729.99. The handheld they modeled this off is currently $899.99. The price increase when this handheld and it’s predecessor consoles have been popular in majority US markets, during a financially unstable time where there exist things like the switch 2 and the Lenovo Legion series of handhelds, not to mention ROG’s other handhelds may make this untenable to consumers. It’s a great idea for them to drop a handheld with an Xbox interface. It’s not a good time.

I don’t think it’s just parents falling for this or older people.

Yeah. I don’t know why the downvotes. But I was waiting to see how they Z2 go chips would compare so I watched a bunch of reviews and every review mentions the difference in RAM among other things including color way.

Fox news isn’t legally considered a news outlet. In fact we have literally seen them admit to not being one in court proceedings.