Locking as it’s not a question. Sorry you’re going through that OP but there are other communities to get support.

This technically violates rule #5 but I feel like it’s a valuable information and discussion to have available.

Locking: rule 5, already answered, and no more to be said

Commenting from alt/backup account as Lemmy currently doesn’t support posting or commenting as a regular user while a mod. Until there’s a “appear as mod” checkbox when posting or something I intend to perform mod actions from this account. I’ve heard others have used this as a workaround successfully. My app of choice doesn’t show reports as yet anyway so I’m already periodically checking in browser.

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It’s what lemmy recommends for private messages since admins can see lemmy DMs. A lot of instances have matrix rooms too.

This is fine

Don’t worry, there’s no such thing as an oak tree.