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Cake day: December 2nd, 2023

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  • It’s interesting that you say the bit about being selfish and idealization. It’s been really hard to imagine this as selfishness. But that is because in my conception of this person is so much selflessness. She never gave me a reason to think otherwise. But clearly this is an idealization.

    Your 3rd perspective would be my preference, had we talked like adults and she didnt just go scorched earth on the relationship. I need to ackowledge that selfishness and the fact that it has nothing to do with me.

    It does feel like she died. And I actually just heard about this phenomenon where people who are unable to attend the funerals of loved ones have a hard time believing that they’re gone. Looking at the corpse gives you closure. So I think I may talk with her just to get that closure, but I need to aknowledge that I’m looking at the corpse of what we had. Thanks