I’m 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I’ve been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don’t have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I’m too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I’m the “odd old lady”. I think people past 40 don’t really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I’m overweight so I can’t really use apps, and to be honest don’t really want. So how a single woman without kids (can’t have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol
Oh I don’t really care only about men. I really don’t have friends here. I moved here about a year ago, work from home witha fully international team. I think this circumstance of not talking to people for days made me lonely for company, not only men. Yes dick is nice and all but I think it’s more about company. I don’t really drink much and going to a bar alone is kind of sad and going with young people don’t really fit me, I’m pass some things. I was just looking for some new ideas :)
Look for a bar where there’s more than just drinking - pool, shuffleboard, trivia night, etc. There’s always a group that’s one person short. Find anyplace that you like - coffee shop, dog park, or whatever - and go at the same time each week. You’ll begin to see regulars and then it’s easier to start a conversation because they already feel familiar. Take along a book you like, read a few pages, and then set it on the table. A book looks more interesting than scrolling your phone and can be a good conversation starter. I went to a whiskey tasting recently and it was packed with men over 40!! Seriously, like 50 guys and 5 women! Liquor stores here do free wine tastings on certain nights- there’s always a line and everyone’s chatting while they wait- is this your first time, what are they sampling today, have you had it before, …