• Flames5123@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    It’s more like “can I be in your family” now a days. If my wife’s dad said no, I would’ve still married her. But knowing that I’m accepted into their family is nice.

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          4 days ago

          Good for you. But whenever I hear about asking for the “parent’s” permission, 99 times out of 100 it’s the father they’re asking.

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        Amongst my kin it’s usually less the dad in particular and moreso that the dad is the embassador for the rest of the men of the family. Basically doing a check before the proper introductions, the women folks have their own rituals.

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          4 days ago

          Good for you and whatever culture you come from. But your personal anecdote is more or less irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

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            If you want anything other than personal anecdotes then you might have better luck doing a study than asking people in a forum. Most people just have their personal anecdotes and personal speculation.

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            4 days ago

            California Scots, so whatd be recognized as Redneck to most people. The whole Scots thing is probably the defining factor here since telling our women kin no is liable to get you an ass beating or poisoned, assuming they don’t just ignore you.

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        4 days ago

        Or like from dude to guy talking to make sure we don’t bother eachother. As you saw in the example, he had a bike coming and he would have disturbed that.

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          He didn’t ask because he knew a bike was coming. That was just serendipity.

          This attitude of asking a father permission stems from the archaic attitude that women are the property of their fathers and then their husbands.