I wasn’t a part of making this community, but I’ve done a little to help it grow… Here’s the rub; while I think we generally try to meme from a uniquely trans fem pov (which is awesome) there is an entire toxic form of femininity ready to latch on to this community. One only has to do a quick search on 🤮eddit to find this.
I really do love the style of memes here, but this is my plea to the mods to keep it from getting toxic. Sure, the memes can be super dark at times, but we should really keep the r/femaledaingstrategey stuff out. It’d be awesome if we can keep the comm title as mostly a joke.
This image is just a taste of what’s out there that can be toxic. Feel free to remove it, but I wanted to get a point across for all of our sakes.
Particularly in smaller communities like this entire Lemmy instance, it is much harder for toxicity to develop. Pretty much everyone knows that this community is about posting “lmao i’m lonely and/or horny” memes and it’s easy for new people understand that too (like it was for me).
Why does reddit have so much toxicity though? The issue is that most mods only really care about a community just being in an acceptable state. What they don’t do is actually make the community into a place where you want to spend more time on. They’re doing the bare minimum to moderate as many communities as possible so that they can get notoriety and moderate bigger subreddits because bigger subs (or reddit themselves) can pay those moderators.
Reddit even actively encourages this behaviour, not only by paying those mods but also with some decisions on how subreddit management works (not going into details because you could find my reddit username with that).
The moderation here is out of love for the community. I know very well that the even worst communities can be made into a cozy space with good moderation but if there’s no love for the community then there’s no reason for it (which creates a downwards spiral because the more toxicity, the less love for a sub, and the less love, the less proper moderation).
For context: I was a moderator for a pretty big subreddit and am the only reason why the sub still exists to this day (even if it turned to shit again after my departure)
All of that being said tho:
This image is just a taste of what’s out there that can be toxic
Please tell me why this is toxic, I don’t think I understand ;-;
Trust me, I know full well how bad things can get. I go over to 🤮eddit to pouch memes sometimes, and it saddens me how awful those places can be. It’s a pit of judgemental self hatred that lashes out at everyone just trying to live life.
I don’t want this place to become like that. I want people to have a safe space where they can be horny and show weakness. I don’t want anyone to feel ashamed of themselves for being imperfect; I want us to take pride in being flawed. So what if you’re lonely and sad now? Most people are. I’m proud of anyone who isn’t depressed, and I’m proud of everyone who hangs on while depressed. Let us all be fail women together! 🤗
This place feels like a less horny, more trans offshoot of /r/femcelgrippysockjail and /r/LetGirlsHaveFun.
I’m glad it’s not /r/femaledatingstrategey or /r/looksmaxingadvice.
However, I have a hard time imagining any femcel community could be non-toxic, it is somewhat fundamental to the femcel identity.
God I love this community so much. Exactly as I said in my earlier comment: “The moderation here is out of love for the community.” And I’m so happy that that is the case.
Seriously, thank you for being a great moderator ;w;
You can be both, its called being a disaster Lesbian :3
As for the text: I havent personally seen any Terfs here
can someone give me the context of what is so toxic about r/femaledaingstrategey? I’ve never been there
It’s essentially the female version of like incel pickup artists.
“High Value Males” and such.
It’s a bunch of people who hate themselves and think evolutionary psychology will bring them happiness. Evolution doesn’t want us to be happy, nor does it say anything about how we should live. Following that line of thinking treats every human being as disposable and worthless, even those who might enjoy slightly more privilege. Fuck nature; you’re all gorgeous and I want to love you all! 😤
Hello, an outsider here. I really love the memes in this community despite not being the target audience. Could you fill me in with what’s toxic about the picture shared? I genuinely cannot distinguish it from what’s usually shared there. :x
E: Oh… I wrote this when I was catching up with the new posts and now I understand based on the next post.
