Hai! I’m new-ish here. I’ve known for a bit I’m trans, but barely started anything substantial really. I’m easing into it, but I’ve had this thing stuck in my mind recently.
Whats something relatively small or cheap/easy that helps make you feel girl? I have a few loungey clothes and stuff and been working on body hair removal but I’m looking for something… Else? I’m not sure what. Just thought this could be a good place for ideas or advice.
I’m just looking for new easy ideas that might help me feel more ‘at home’? Idk I wanna be a comfy chill relaxed girl.
Eyeliner pencil.
Or pick and choose from this very absolute-beginner friendly make-up video
The euphoria I got from my first application of foundation, eyeliner, and blush was marvelous.
Second suggestion: jewelry. A cute bracelet, subtle necklace.
If you haven’t gotten your ears pierced and want to, go to a piercing studio. If you have them pierced, dangly earrings!
Skin care routine! Cleaning and moisturizing your face every night is very femme.
Get your nails done. If you have a friend who can do it, do that. Or go to a nail salon, a basic polish will only be 20-40 bucks and you get to choose from hundreds of colours. Start with just your toes if you aren’t comfortable.
Pluck your eyebrows. You just need an eyebrow tweezer. Makes you look cleaner even if you’re still largely presenting masc.
Wear women’s underwear, boyshorts are a nice option if you’re not ready for a bikini cut.
Start getting rid of extra boy clothes that you don’t foresee yourself wearing in the future. It can help relieve a burden you didn’t even know was there.
Sorry, I’m 3 months in and these are some of the things that I’ve done. I’m full time, out at work and with family – I moved quickly I guess.
estrogen 😆
EDIT: before someone points out this isn’t a small thing, I think HRT should be thought of as relatively small step - so many women wait really long to start estrogen for no reason other than perception that this is some huge step that you can’t undo.
I think estrogen should be one of the first things anyone does when exploring because it gives you so much information about what feels good for you, and it can potentially be so life-saving, and because it is such a low-cost and low-risk thing to do.
There is no reason not to start with estrogen as the first little step:
- it can be stopped anytime and
- there are no long-term or permanent changes until after taking it for three months, and
- it’s relatively cheap.
Three months is a long time to figure out if estrogen is the right thing for you, if it helps, if actually it’s crucial for your mental health and basic functioning, etc.
Even past 3 months you don’t have to socially transition, you might have another 9+ months before you can’t boy-mode anymore, I have a friend on oral estrogen who is still boy-moding a year later without issue (though your mileage may vary - I don’t think I could boy-mode anymore because of my breasts). I know a woman who has been on estrogen for much longer who still boy-modes at work, and people see what they want to see - I can’t see a man in her, but because they all knew her as a man, that’s what they see still.
All this to say, estrogen should come first. It’s not a big deal.
