• Rev. Layle@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    I only have one biological kid, he is 29 now. The other 3 are step kids. What I realized is that, for reasons probably too long to go on here, is:

    • I am terrible with small kids, the younger, the worse time.
    • Teenagers are easier for me to deal with
    • I don’t get that “it’s worth it” or “this is the most rewarding thing” feeling. I feel like I should have never had any kids.when I am doing things with kids I am generally thinking “I want to do something else” not involving kids.
    • While I am much better about it these days, there was a 10 year period where i dispised kids, with my spouse, at the time, not making the situation better. I don’t hate children, in general, anymore, I am still pretty ambivalent about anyone else kids.

    That being said I love my kids, none of the above is their fault whatsoever. However,I totally get why people do not want kids.

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      3 days ago

      It’s likely because you’re damaged and hopefully the generational abuse could at least improve with you

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        3 days ago

        Dropped your /s mate. It doesn’t matter how clearly and objectively wrong the silly braindead sentiment you’re shitting out of your mouth is. No one will assume you’re being satirical. Everyone will just take your words at face value that you really are just a backward troglodyte mouth breathing waste of skin. But I’m willing to give you the benefit of a doubt that you said the dumbest fucking thing I’ve heard since last Wednesday in jest.

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        3 days ago

        Wtf.

        The only people really thinking it’s “the most rewarding thing” are narcissistic psycopaths.

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          Nope, I love kids because they are so pure and that you can see how most people are good underneath all the shit. It’s tough to have kids, but it doesn’t contrast this whatsoever. Things go downhill fast for families where they don’t connect with their kids though, and for those that hasn’t had that, they will say things like you with vitriol because it’s hard to look in the mirror. Also, I happen to think it’s the most rewarding thing, but it’s maybe not everyone’s thing. But all people I met that hate kids have been abused even if they haven’t recognised it yet. The boomers were in my opinion really good at not perpetuating the fear and punishment as much, but for people in general to experience how grounded honest connected kids act we have a ways to go.