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if you devalue trans people in any way, including nb people, please block me

I respectfully request that you not refer to me using slurs

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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • See, this is what people say, but now that I’ve been reading labels I don’t believe it.

    For example, I cannot eat Kellogg’s Rice Krispies, but some off brands are made with a different formula that doesn’t include gluten and is manufactured in a safe environment.

    Conversely, I can eat Cheerios, but not most store brands, Lucky Charms but not most store brands, etc.

    And that’s just cereal! Even drugs vary wildly. Sure, the active ingredients are the same, but the other contents can really vary.

    Some foods have similar ingredients, but are either manufactured on shared equipment with wheat and dairy, or not.

    I now believe that most store brands are made in a unique environment. I’m open to being convinced otherwise, but if you need more examples, I can check my cupboard and tell you all kinds of things!







  • I left beehaw because I was being targeted by a user using gaslighting and lies.

    When I responded to this user (I will admit, too strongly), the mods removed my comments, but left his initial lies and gaslighting up, even though I had reported them (and even messaged one of the admins directly – it was actually a beehaw admin’s actions against my comments.) To be clear, I understood the removal of my comments, but I did not understand why the user’s lies and rudeness against me still remained.

    I mentioned tumblr because it was where the information I was sharing had initiated, and I encouraged people to take the discussion there, since a productive discussion was no longer possible here. I never said I was moving there myself.

    I then removed the rest of my comments and posts on beehaw.

    I was already on tumblr, so I didn’t “move from” Beehaw to there. I was also already on this account, so nor did I move here – I was already here all along, where I’ve had no similar problems.




  • This was a good read, thanks. I’ve known so many people who have separated from their parents, and every single one of them has a good reason. I’ve often wondered how the parents tell it from their side. I’m sure every single one of them was “loving” and “nurturing” by their own account, even the dad who couldn’t accept that his son was gay, or the parents who perpetually and deliberately misgendered their daughter. I’ve known so many such cases, and sadly some have ended in tragedy.

    Me, I’ve had good parents, but I have a brother who’s an abusive asshole who I want nothing to do with, and occassionally I get the “he’s your brother, you’ve got to love him” schtick from third parties. No. I really don’t.

    No one is obligated to stay connected with family who are hurtful, especially when it’s the parents who were the ones who chose to bring you into this world. It’s massively unfair for people to expect that we just tolerate, even love, abusive family.



  • it “[fell] far short of the greatness” of Fallout 4 and Skyrim

    Hilarious to read this, considering how much trash talk I heard about FO4 soon after its release.

    People also spent years talking about how bad ESO is, and when I finally played it … it’s great, just like FO4.

    I’ll be interested to see how/if opinions change about Starfield over time. I’ll still wait to play it because I’m a patient gamer, but I’ve come to distrust anyone’s takes about Bethesda games.



  • Yeah, I was on that sub as well, occasionally. I respect Bardfinn, the lead mod of AHS, but they used to tell me that accounts were restored on appeal if moderators retaliated by reporting users for “abusing the report button,” but my appeal was never accepted, and it was a clear instance of mod retaliation. I finally shared that experience when I was on my way out of the site for good.