I had my first real gf at 27. Needless to say I had given up years ago. A couple of years later she broke my heart and I started to look for someone else even if I thought I would never get over her. I had a couple of hook ups and a crazy person (super fun sex but not someone I would share my life with!) before giving up on love. 2 months after ending it with crazy person I thought that was the end for intimate relations when I found my current gf and we are happy together today with a son.
Every time I found someone, it was when I had given up. Maybe it made me relax more in the company of girls or it was something else, I don’t know but I just didn’t care if things would work out or not. I think they can sense that.
And you know what? They will probably get less of that now. Yay!