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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • “Get” as in buy/make them for others or “get” as in receive them?

    US based, for context. I have a large family spread all over the place. We do a Secret Santa drawing, where each person gets another’s name and buys them their gift. So everyone gets one nicer gift instead of lots of little stuff.

    We get our names and start buying around now so we can take advantage of Black Friday sales. People start receiving their gifts in the mail from early December through the holidays.

    For non-family, non-Secret Santa, this is also the time I start buying gifts. I keep a note on my phone through the year for gift ideas, so it’s usually pretty easy come November to buy for people.





  • RSS reader -> skim headlines -> open the full article from maybe 10% of the headlines -> skim the first paragraph to see how clickbaity the headline was -> read through the full article on maybe 50% of those.

    And this isn’t just global and political news, I follow science, tech, sports, and other niche interest news this way too.

    Some days I just listen to NPR’s Morning Edition podcast snips. Double speed. Skip over any with a title that doesn’t interest me.

    And finally, I discard any completionist feelings. My RSS feed will never be all caught up. My podcast queue will never be empty. That used to bother me but I have some tools to manage my stress over it a bit better now.


  • Yeah. After a mediocre first date where he showed signs of a quick temper. We had no friends in common, no overlap in any social circles. I really did not want to deal with his likely negative response to me telling him I didn’t want to continue talking to him, so I didn’t. His second text after I didn’t respond to his first within ten minutes told me I was correct.





  • A mentor once gave me an exercise to identify my “core values” or goals or motivators. Out of a list of 60, the task was to narrow down over time and conversation to my top 5.

    E.g., I value financial stability. Not to be confused with other values of earning high compensation or achieving lofty corporate positions and recognition.

    It helped me frame for myself that I’m going to work to be comfortable and stable and beyond that, my motivations lie elsewhere, like spending time with friends and working on personal projects. There are people who put greater value on achieving a high salary or earning the c-suite title or having their names on patents; that’s perfectly valid and great for them, it’s not me and that is also ok.

    There are tons of similar exercises online. If it sounds like something that might help you define your perspective on work differently, to narrow it down to you instead of getting overwhelmed with the whole world’s problems, please look into it and good luck.




  • I think you have a very different perspective from me on what OP was asking and what this thread is. To paraphrase:

    OP said “here are these extreme claims that seem strange to me, is this really what most people believe?”

    To which I said, “wtf, no, those are way out there. You’re in a YouTube bubble that doesn’t reflect the mainstream nor anyone with a data-based position”.

    And you… seem to want to argue about the actual effects of porn. This is not a conversation about the effects of porn, this is a thread about how the yt video OP saw is propaganda. You don’t need to expend effort to pick out the small bits of truth within misinformation and propaganda. If you want to discuss the effects of porn, post a thread and find someone who wants to have that discussion. Good luck.





  • Hmm, not familiar with the connection. I stumbled across it while roaming Wikipedia. Origins are unknown possible from “Samiel”, the name of the Devil in some opera. Or Sam Hill, a man in the 1800s known for using such foul language that his own name became a swear. Imagine that. While most strive to leave their mark on the world by leaving something good behind or raising good kids or helping someone in a life-changing way or whatever, he left behind his own name as a swear.