First, Id make sure you have data lines setup. Get some PVC in the walls, and set yourself up to run data lines to every room.
I’d personally grab a NUC or 2, or honestly the NAB6 mini pc. Make them a Proxmox server, virtualize your apps in containers, or inside VMs. Getting 2 to 3 will enable High Availability for maintence.
I’d then build atleast 1 TrueNAS box, for storage. You can get 2 and create high availability here too. Additionally, you’ll want set of drives for backups of your TrueNAS server (the 2nd TrueNAS box isn’t a backup, it’s a redundant drive, very diff). That said, you could use the 2nd TrueNAS as a backup, until you have money to spring for a backup.
You’ll want a good router, you can run this on Proxmox, or just get separate hardware. Personally I’d get bare metal separate router. Than get a few switches, you’ll want 1 for PoE for your cameras, and 1 with 2.5 high networking, and youll want them all to have 10 gig, so they can communicate with each other quickly. (You don’t want a file transfer from 1 TrueNAS to the 2nd TrueNAS, to hog all your bandwidth between your switches, throttling your network speeds.). You’ll then want some Access Points that connect to your switches, over PoE, for wifi, Ubiquiti is really good here.
Yea, but they won’t be High Availability unless you have 3. Proxmox assigns HA Dynamically, meaning the machines vote. So you need a odd number. BUT, a cluster of 2 should be fine. Migrate the VMs over, to power down and perform maintence.
I really like the n5105 nas boards, and the jxxxxx nas boards. I went with n51505. Basically what “Wolfgang” did on YouTube. It’s more than powerful enough, perhaps overkill. But the benefit is it’s a lot of sata ports, on a mini it’s board, which is rare. You might find a better setup, I’m still planning this section out.
You could just do what I did initially. I just copied Wolfgang’s build. N5105 nas board, a nas case (I used the fractal node, in his video), and put 32gb of ram (overkill). And a psu with a 500gb nvme. You can install TrueNAS on here. Run everything on here, media server, containers, etc. set your drives to ZFS. Then when you want to expand, you can get the NAB6 or something different…
You need to plan for what you intend to do. The setup I recommended is for like many VMs, for home labbing enterprise software to learn it. In addition to home server stuff, like media, are, vault, cloud, immich, etc. even a few windows and Linux VMs. It’s A LOT. You can simplify it. You can even run proxmox on the n5105. And just set up a ceph ZFS storage pool.