I just made an account on your instance, and wow. It’s so obvious that my original reply to you is definitely being “lightly” brigaded by .ml

From here it sits at positive 2, from my .world account it’s at 0 LMAO

It’s grad and hex that most instances defed from, .ml is more subtle and hosts a number of official Lemmy software support forums, so not many do defed from them. Unfortunately.

Yea, but unfortunately the admins and mods of the Tankie Triad are the biggest Tankies around and enforce that through (ironic, because they always complain about censorship) mod action

So the best course of action, if you’re not on an instance that defed’s from them, is to not reward their comms with activity. A total boycott, no posts, no comments, no upvotes. With a little luck, all the non-tankie users will gradually shift over

Intentionally as in “X parts of my personality are pushing people away so I should work on that”? Yea in general, but it’s not easy, it requires serious effort and motivation from within.

Over time and just leaving it to fate on if those changes are good or bad? Also yes, but without putting in the effort to control it who knows where it’ll end up. Like if someone is “an angry person” in their 20s maybe they’ll chill out in their 40s…or get worse

This would probably be a better fit for !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com