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  • They don’t owe you anything. Not sex, not a kiss, not a hug, not a second date, not even a smile. If the date goes well, you will get some or even all of those but if you try to force them, you will get nothing. Sure it can be disappointing if you put in a lot of effort and get nothing back but you will have to live with that. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible and sometimes a date just goes wrong because of a weird coincidence.

    Be nice, even if the date doesn’t go as you wanted. Open communication goes a long way and chances are that the person you’re talking to is just as insecure as you are. Explain (not accuse) why you don’t think this situation will work out. If you’re lucky, you can turn the conversation around. If not, at least you’re ending the date in a civil way. That also (and especially) applies to talking on online dating platforms. Sometimes you can tell just from a conversation that things won’t go anywhere. Way too many people just drop the conversation and move on which can feel pretty rude. Be nice, explain what’s up, give them a friendly goodbye and then move on.

    Those rules apply to both sides. You don’t owe them anything either, especially if they get rude. You should still try to be friendly in case there is a misunderstanding but try to get yourself out of an uncomfortable situation before it gets worse. Your safety is still priority number one.

    Edit: some more

    Don’t expect a relationship to last. Chances are it won’t. But this isn’t as pessimistic of a tip as you might expect. Even a single day of joy can be worth it if you manage your expectations. I’ve had a relationship crash and burn after seven years, I’ve had ones that lasted a couple of months and I’ve had someone ghost me after the second date. And still, all of them gave me amazing memories that I wouldn’t want to miss and they helped me grow as a person. Allow things to grow on their own and enjoy the process. Maybe you will marry that person. Maybe you’ll date them for a few months or years. Maybe you will never get past second base but stay platonic friends. Maybe you will spend the most amazing day of your life with them and then never see them again because you accidentally spilled something over their favorite t-shirt.


  • Sure. I use it as a structured place to keep notes on anything that may be important later, not specifically tasks:

    • Important people in my life (friends and family) with a short bio, where we met, favorite food, allergies, ideas what I could get them for their birthdays, links to their social media profiles, plans for shared vacations, maybe a few photos.
    • Recipes from all kinds of sources. If they are from a video or one of those “scroll past three pages of sentimental nonsense” sites, I summarize them and translate them into German with metric units.
    • Lists with interesting links about 3D printing, software development and so on. Keeping these in a wiki instead of just my browser’s bookmarks list allows me to better categorize them and add notes.
    • A list of open questions and project ideas that I can’t research right now like “Where is the best place to get custom printed LEGO minifigs?” and “Why do the zfs drives in my home server sometimes have problems waking up from sleep?”
    • Lists of interesting products/books/movies/… that I might buy/read/watch/… at some point
    • Some writing stuff: D&D campaigns, short stories, diary-like entries
    • A list of all computers in my household with hardware specs, operating system and so on

    All of those get put into categories and the categories are displayed on the main page via the categorytree plugin. The nice thing about having a wiki is that you have a lot of options for linking or embedding related content while still keeping it somewhat organized.





  • While I might even agree with you on the lack of discipline, I think you may be overcompensating, especially considering your son being 15 already.

    Now, I may be biased as someone who has spent most of his waking time since teenage years figuring out how to convince computers to do my bidding but a daily screen time of just two hours doesn’t seem enough to build proper media literacy and an understanding of how modern technology actually works which to me is a serious concern in a world where almost every job requires us to interact with that technology. And a curfew that’s significantly more strict than what his friends have to obay will eventually make him an outsider.

    We don’t know the full story and maybe he is happy with your methods but please please please talk to him about his feelings. I’ve seen hundreds if not thousands of young people who loathe their parents for their strict parenting methods but are too afraid to say something for fear of being punished with even stricter rules. Then, the second they turn 18, they break all ties and never look back.






  • So? What are those reasons?

    • “I don’t like either option”: pick the lesser evil or vote third party
    • “But Harris won’t stop the genocide in Palestine”: neither will Trump.
    • “My vote wouldn’t change anything”: it would. See OP.
    • “I can’t vote because I have to work”: vote by mail. Demand that elections are held on a Sunday or national holiday like in most other western democracies. (As an aside, I wonder why conservatives haven’t pushed for this yet. Voting on a Sunday and setting up polling stations next to churches would probably help them a lot)
    • “I can’t vote because I can’t physically get to a polling station (disabled, sick, too far)”: vote by mail
    • “I can’t vote because my state’s ruling party won’t let me”: you should be furious about this and do anything in your power to change this.

    Did I forget any? Probably. Enough to change the election outcome in the majority of states? Most certainly not.

    Yes, the US have some fucked up rules that make voting hard for some people and for that exact reason urgently need a voting system reform. Make voting easier and make changes that break the two party system.

    Honestly, here in Germany we’re infamous for still using fax machines for half our bureaucracy and even we manage to do it better than you. Here, elections are always on a Sunday when the vast majority of voters has the day off. Every elegible citizen gets a letter a couple of weeks before the election, informing them of their assigned polling station, based on their primary home address. If for any reason you can’t be at your assigned polling station on election day (you work on Sundays, are on vacation, whatever), requesting a mail-in ballot is as easy as going to a website and entering your address and a PIN from the letter. Alternatively you can request one by mail. If for any reason you don’t get that initial letter, figure out which polling station is the correct one for you (usually the closest one; ask your neighbors), show up on election day and show some government-issued ID. Done.






  • dfyx@lemmy.helios42.detoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlCanon 600D Flash error
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    Asklemmy is not a support community, you might have more luck in photography related communities.

    That being said, you basically answered your own question. Your integrated flash is either stuck or blocked. Hard to tell without seeing it in person. You might try to help the camera by carefully pulling on the flash while holding the flash button (on the left side of the camera body). Maybe there is some dirt trapped in the hinge. If you can get it open (please, please, please don’t break the hinge), try carefully cleaning it.

    But here comes the kicker: the integrated flash on most cameras is absolute garbage and I’d recommend you just disable it. There is a reason why high end cameras don’t even have an integrated flash. An integrated flash is 20-30 times smaller than even the most basic external flash so it makes extremely hard shadows. (Edit: also, you can’t modify the flash brightness and the flash is so close to the camera body that you may see the shadow from your lens in your photos) If you can afford it, buy a cheap external flash (I’d recommend one from Yongnuo) and a mini softbox that you can put on the flash. It will make your photos A LOT better for not that much money.

    If you’re interested, I can dig out my old 760D and take some comparison shots between internal flash, external flash without softbox and external flash with softbox.


  • How would software support improve?

    • Less fragmentation between multiple different ways to install software (Ubuntu-derived distributions currently have apt, flatpack and snap while some software is available in neither so I have to manually download a binary or even compile it myself)
    • Better support for certain use cases like… I don’t know… fractional scaling which Windows has supported since Vista
    • Simplified system settings. People make fun of Windows splitting settings between the “new” settings app and the old control center. On most Linux distributions, I may have to set some things multiple times for my window manager, my compositor and so on… again, scaling is the main culprit here but themeing has similar problems.

    Basically fix the few things that work better in Windows, even for power users, ideally without sacrificing the flexibility that makes Linux so awesome.

    Edit: bonus suggestion though this one is kind of tricky to do without sacrificing flexibility:

    Less fragmentation between distributions. Recently I had some driver problem (can’t quite remember what) and googled a solution. I found a solution in a support forum for a different distribution than what I had. Looked good but in the end it didn’t help me because the config files were in completely different locations, default configs were different, packages had different names and they recommended using some UI tool to configure the device that wasn’t available on my distribution or at least I couldn’t find how to install it.

    For myself, I’ll eventually figure that out. It takes me a few hours that I could spend on something productive but whatever, we’re geeks, we do shit like that. But now imagine my mom calls me about that problem. She probably won’t have the same distribution that I have because we have entirely different use cases. Good look troubleshooting that over the phone. With Windows, I can rely on 80% of all users having one of the latest two versions (so currently 10 or 11). The fix that works on my machine will probably work on theirs and most things I find online will apply to what they have. Same for macOS.

    Edit 2: For context, I run Ubuntu and Debian on quite a lot of headless machines such as servers and embedded stuff. It works great and I wouldn’t want to miss it. But on desktop, I’m still in Windows and won’t leave for the foreseeable future. Every few months I try setting up some desktop linux and every time it takes less than a week to annoy me so much that I’d rather wipe the whole thing and install Windows than figure out how to fix that mess of two different display servers, five different desktop environments and two entirely incompatible GUI frameworks in a trenchcoat.


  • Posts within the same community are synced and you can see communities from different instances. The point is that news@instance1 and news@instance2 are different communities even though the names are similar.

    The counter argument is that reddit has the same problem even without federation. /r/games, /r/gaming and /r/gamers are three different subreddits with very similar names and you have no way of knowing which one is the “main” gaming community unless you check each of them. With time, this will probably sort itself out with lemmy as well. It just takes time for one of the similar communities to become the de facto standard.