Hm… I’d actually disagree with that conclusion? I think what the author is saying there is that ableism isn’t simply a matter of the words being used. A statement that treats disabled people as subhuman isn’t okay because it avoids using these words - it’s still ableist.

From the beginning of the article (emphasis mine):

Note that only some of the words on this page are actually slurs. Many of the words and phrases on this page are not generally considered slurs, and in fact, may not actually be hurtful, upsetting, retraumatizing, or offensive to many disabled people. They are simply considered ableist (the way that referring to a woman as emotionally fragile is sexist, but not a slur).

Not everyone has the ability to be mindful of how certain language originated in ableism and this reinforces it. But for those of us who can, it’s a good idea to try.

Sounds like folks have given a good number of alternatives, but I just wanted to share a resource: “Ableism/Language” by Lydia X. Z. Brown. It goes through a bunch of ableist words and suggests alternatives. :)

Quite a few folks have mentioned Outer Wilds, so I’ll add the DLC soundtrack. The titular song (Echoes of the Eye) that plays at the end of the DLC makes me burst into tears every time I hear it. But in a good way, haha.

When I moved in with my partner, I had to let go of a lot food-related shame or sense of obligation. My partner has executive dysfunction stuff, I don’t have the energy for cooking - but my parents scoffed at frozen meals and takeout when I was a kid, and my dad got annoyed when something in the fridge went bad

My life got so much easier when I stopped feeling bad about finding easier ways to eat. I’m glad you’ve found options that work well for you!

I’ve been doing savory oatmeal for breakfast! It’s salty for an early boost for POTS, and with quick oats I can just dump things in a bowl and microwave for a couple minutes (low spoons for CFS). Still working on collecting things I can add, like jarred sliced mushrooms and asking my partner to boil lots of eggs to keep on hand in the fridge.

I don’t have the energy to cook or make most meals, so I’m usually just helping my partner with ideas. It’s exciting to be able to come up with ideas and actually get to execute them.