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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • Prepared to be roasted alive for this opinion but studies (undoubtedly of white, middle class, US undergrads) seem to indicate women find clutter and messes more psychologically distressing than men do.

    I’m a man but I’ve had many deadbeat guys as roommates and I am definitely far more bothered by messes and clutter than they were so I kind of get this.

    If you are the “mind it more” person, you will find yourself rage cleaning because the other person can wait you out as long as they want if they are taking you for granted and not concerned you’ll leave over this.

    So there are two toxic traits here:

    1. A willingness to wait out chores even if you know it’s angering people you are with.

    2. A kind of willful blindness. “Honestly, I didn’t think it was that bad.”

    The second one might be worse.

    The first is excusable (plausible deniability) with the “men are oblivious” defense if the aggrieved party is not being overt in their request that a chore be done.

    The second is a person (some women obviously do this, too) refusing to learn to empathize and recognize when things are getting to the point where it’s bothering the other person. From an interpersonal perspective this is probably more infuriating over the years.




  • Look, I hate the guy, but that is how you bandage an ear.

    People got shot so that parts real.

    He could have been nicked or he could have caught it on a sharp point bending down or he could have cut it with a fingernail.

    My money is on the fingernail. He’s probably on blood thinners. He’s probably got thin, brittle skin. He probably clawed at his ear when the bullet whizzed by.

    He could easily have nicked it. A nick can bleed like crazy and also heal very fast.

    From there it’s all spin…

    The simplest explanation is probably this given how fast it healed, I guess.