well, unfortunately I guess I would choose neither. I can’t do anal because it hurts them too much and they’re not a fan of cum so watching them gag and try to get it down isn’t a turn on for me (I know it is for some, but unfortunately the gagging porn completely throws me off). A really sloppy oily handi would be nice, maybe even a finger up the bum but they don’t like doing that either lol.

Idk, are people actually ok with having someone perform a sexual act on them the other person doesn’t enjoy? Is the premise that it’s a special treat because they don’t enjoy it or just don’t have the time for it? I very much need constant enjoyment from my partner during sex or I stop. That whole “letting me finish” thing isn’t my shtick.

At first the thought of “religion shopping” was kinda funny, but honestly most people are just forced into one religious sect from family/etc so it actually sounds kinda like a great idea. Most religions have weird beliefs that half of the followers ignore, so just taking it in the context of “Don’t do stupid or hateful shit/we’re all connected” and finding something that fits your personality might be a great way forward. Kinda turns religion into an actual helpful support group.