No, there are not handicapped stalls in the other bathrooms. In this particular art gallery/museum the womens’ and mens’ are very difficult even for some disabled people who can walk, because each is fitted with two fire doors (heavy doors that self close) - one to get into the sink area and another to access the stalls area.

If it was like @Tippon@lemmy.dbzer0.com was saying, I might feel differently but this is in a new part of the building and they are only a few years old. There’s also an enormous supply closet next to them. It really shouldn’t have to be like this.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. That locked due to sex thing is irksome for sure. How can their logic be “other people have sex therefore you have nowhere to pee”?!

It creates a weird fear in my mind of using one while I could be using another but instead I’d be blocking someone who needs the special infrastructure in the toilet.

This is a big part of it. As a bi cisgender disabled person I feel like we are being herded into making decisions about sharing/competing for a scarce resource somehow. It sort of feels like they are ticking off all their “other” boxes with this one toilet.

I felt quite selfconscious when a person with no visible disability walked out of it and I was outside in a wheelchair waiting. I’m pretty sure they were rainbow community and I didn’t want them to feel like their use of the toilet was at my expense.

It also feels a bit problematic to me that there’s an assumption that disabled people specifically are never bigoted or unsafe for gender diverse people to be around.

I’m sorry. Just wanted to give you a virtual hug if you’d like one.

Ugh, yours sounds even worse than ours.

We just elected a centre-right party that needed to go into coalition with our most right-wing party, who are libertarians, and our most populist party. They finally formed yesterday and now we have a government that is going to destroy the environment and decimate social services.

Remarkably, the letter’s signees include Ilya Sutskever, the company’s chief scientist and a member of its board, who has been blamed for coordinating the boardroom coup against Altman in the first place.

I am so confused.

I was a bit offended by tourists doing that mmhmm thing until I found out that it’s considered polite in the US.

I was interpreting it as “yes I know you are thankful to me, and so you should be! By the way, I’m an oaf.”

“c’est moi,” meaning, “it’s me who thanks you.”

Ah so that’s what that means. I thought I was mishearing. That’s pretty close to what I was brought up with, “it’s my pleasure” (meaning it’s me who is pleased to be helping).

The informal/vernacular in my country (NZ) is “sweet as” which puzzles most visitors, or sometimes “it’s all good”.

That’s such a cool idea!

That sounds hard.

Do you meditate at all?.Sometimes it can help reset the critical inner voice.

That’s so cool that you’re doing NaNoWriMo! I’ve always felt too daunted by lack of plot. Let us know how it goes!

Ah that explains it. Thanks!

I thought they had already done it. I got the notification months ago.

The top result is already out. Obviously the John Oliver fans got their wish and Pūteketeke won. Thousands of them had to be disqualified for cheating, though.

We are all waiting now to see who is in second. Fingers crossed for the Fairy Tern, New Zealand’s most endangered bird!

I’ve never used twitter in my life, still have a vague interest in what Musk is doing to it though.

Another way of looking at it is bottle openers look remarkably similar to beetle genitalia.

I think the beetles were here first.

That tracks.

Pretty sure Elon Musk railed against bots on twitter despite having been proven to have used bots on twitter to manipulate opinion himself.

That would make sense. The cats in my life have always seemed super expressive to me but I was infatuated with our family cat pretty much from birth.

I knew it!! When I was a kid I was told cats don’t have facial expressions but they so do!

Thanks so much, I understand the hypothesis now!!

And that article does show how it could map onto humans. For some reason I had been under the impression that early hominids did not necessarily have the females-as-strangers setup.

It’s interesting to compare with elephants, who are matriarchal. The “Alice” of an asian elephant herd will often stop having kids (though, she biologically still can) so her daughters can have some, even though unlike Charlotte, her daughters are related to her so theoreticly it’s more of a Bob/Daniel situation.

I feel like the stupidest person in the world because I still don’t see the difference between Bob and Alice and now I also don’t understand this part

If Daniel has a child, Bob won’t have a new child, to avoid starving his grandchild.

How does Bob do this? Why doesn’t he just menopause too? If menopause ensures more descendant survival wouldn’t they both do it?

Why doesn’t Alice just die?

The troupe still have to find enough food for her, how is that an evolutionary advantage to keep a non breeding member around?

If something happens to Charlotte now the troupe cannot reproduce unless they go out and find a new female, but if something happens to Daniel then Bob can still reproduce with Charlotte. What is the advantage in that asymetry?

Edit: I was puzzling over the Charlotte factor. Is it more that somewhere along the line the Charlottes of this world were killing the non-menopausal Alices? Because that kind of would make sense.

Thank you so much for taking the time to try to explain it by the way. If you don’t feel like answering my latest round of questions that’s okay!