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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • Here’s a weird suggestion: Reach out to her and propose relationship counseling. It’s absolutely not healthy for an amicable breakup to be NC. You can absolutely go to a relationship counselor with to goal of figuring out how to end your marriage and rediscover yourselves as friends- but the fact that you went NC tells me that either you’re leaving something huge out of this, or you don’t know how to negotiate your boundaries as ex-partners and are afraid of falling back into a loveless relationship.

    When you spend that long with someone, even if you don’t love them, they become a part of your life in a way that always hurts to tear out. You’re basically mourning a loss, and I think y’all recognize that the weight of that loss could make both of you repeat stupid mistakes.

    That having been said, if there’s a good reason why you’re NC, then I don’t have a lot of great advice for you, other than to forget her and move on. If you’re ready for intimacy but not ready for a relationship, be very open with the people you’re dealing with that you’re looking for something casual and have the baggage of a 15 year relationship behind you.