Agreed. Unfortunately, Lemmy has both design choices and cultural issues that make running heavily moderated communities essentially impossible.

There’s no victim here. Just a guy with “feelings”.

The issue is that these spaces are often prime trolling grounds, and you end up having the same discussions over and over until the honest posters move on and only trolls are left.

I’ve certainly seen my share of crappy behavior (up and including sexual assault unfortunately) in supposedly liberal and leftist spaces.

I don’t compare because I don’t hang out with conservatives , but every instance is one too many.

I want to be treated fairly and based on how I act, and yet I don’t get that.

You are being treated based on how act. You act like a spoiled toddler that thinks he’s owed some consideration by strangers.

I feel you man, I know people that grew up in environments like that, and if you are not temperamentally suited for them they will chew you up.

I found it got a lot better when I moved out on my own and could choose who I spent time and who I did not. But not everyone can do that when they need the most.

I know what they type. They are responsible for that at least, aren’t they?

There certainly is a hateful piece of shit in this thread, but it’s not me.

But I’m sure if you just keep externalizing instead of working on yourself, things will magically fix themselves for you!

No, I honestly do not. I do my level best to treat everyone as a person and when I mess up I apologize and try and do better. That works pretty well.

If you are treated like you are inherently bad, you may be not as good as you think you are.

Edit: nice edit man. Totally not what an angry toddler would do.

You’re assuming a lot things there bubba.

Poor oppressed men. The fact that their side piece can’t get an abortion anymore must really get them down.

Only in Germany. Our liberals are blue. Our social democrats are green. Our greens are red because of an alliance with the social democrats.

There isn’t? Millions of liberal men can man just fine every day just out in public.

What are you missing?

I can’t believe I missed it.

I’m realizing that at least part of what I meant was, I miss the 90s club scene. But I’m def going to try and catch up a bit!

If you cry fowl you probably need to see a doctor to get your tear ducts checked out.

I miss jungle. It was really really dope.

I’m not trolling. You seem genuinely incapable of taking any criticism on board, thereby virtually guaranteeing that the issue will persist.

So eventually I would ban you.

I take it back: I would totally ban you.

No, you are putting words into your mouth. People are telling you what the words you are putting into your mouth mean and what the consequences are.

Take the feedback. Or leave it.

Either way, you are responsible for your actions.