Before Lemmy I never really did social media. Lemmy is my first experience in getting ratioed. I notice a surprising amount of my posts get 50% or more downvotes. I never realized how divisive my opinions and communication style is.
Thankfully I’m in a good mental place in my life, so this doesn’t bother me… too much. But I can see how it would have a big impact on people testing their toes, and expressing their voice for the first time, that dopamine hit of validation is tempered by the lows of feeling unpopular social pressure.
I’ve notice other people getting downvotes, and they just delete their comment entirely. I leave mine up, since I believe in keeping the forum record open and transparent is more important then my posting history.
I keep posting to Lemmy in spite of it, because I know Lemmy is just at its starting point, and content is more important then my personal validation. (but it does eat at me some)
When you post something that gets negative feedback do you modify your post? does it change your opinion? does it impact your participation in the community?
I remember about a comment saying that the author got upset for arguing with someone for a while, then checke their history and saw that that person was drinking their own pee.
No judgement, but never forget that on the Internet you can be talking to anybody.
Really makes you think how many internet conversations would change if you could see what the other person looked like lol. For better or for worse.
Kinda not really related: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P51yWUeHKJo
Viva la dirt league, life on the internet