You should be motivated to spend time with and educate your children and family members. If you lack adults able and willing to do this it is extremely problematic and possibly abusive.

While I agree with you overall I don’t think you’ll get much traction here with that framing. I doubt any meaningful proportion of parents are failing to spend time with their kids willingly; more likely is that both parents need to work long hours just to make ends meet. That’s a broader social failing, not abuse.