Is it possible to spot personality dysfunction from someone's everyday word use? My colleagues and I have conducted research that suggests you can, and often sooner than you might expect.

In one study of 530 people, published in the Journal of Personality Disorders, we analysed written essays about peoples’ close relationships. We also collected data on their levels of personality dysfunction. Those with greater personality dysfunction used language that carried a sense of urgency and self-focus – “I need…”, “I have to…”, “I am…”.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.worldEnglish
    4·
    4 个月前

    I value restraint, almost as much as I value the ability to let go of it when appropriate. Raising your voice then apologizing when appropriate is far more valuable than remaining calm when a voice raising is warranted or raising it and not acknowledging how it’s unpleasant to those around you

    • ExtremeDullard@piefed.socialEnglish
      3·
      4 个月前

      The traits of my character I cultivate the most are:

      • Don’t be nasty with people in their faces: usually people who do you wrong made a mistake, and don’t do it on purpose. So usually I let it slide - or at least I don’t react as harshly as I could’ve in the circumstances - and I give the person a way out.
      • Don’t EVER talk negatively about someone else behind their back. If I have a beef with someone, it’s nobody’s business but mine with them, and I’ll deal with them directly.

      I found out a long time ago that if you behave like this, you gain a reputation as a trustworthy person who’s easy and pleasant to interact with. That certainly doesn’t preclude raising my voice, and I generally swear like a sailor… But it’s not badly received when I do because people know whatever I’m ranting about is never personal, and I’ll never turn nasty against anyone in public.

      • krooklochurm@lemmy.ca
        2·
        4 个月前

        The thing I strive for above all else is humility.

        Admitting when I’m wrong, allowing the space for others to be wrong and to not hold it against them, to learn and grow from my failures instead of hating myself for them.

        Humility is good.

        Hard to maintain when you have the world’s largest penis, millions of dollars in the bank, and all other people are like ants compared to you, but I wouldn’t know anything about that since none of it applies to me.