Most of my adult life has involved lots and lots of work. Right now I’m juggling like three and a half jobs. I “only” worked five hours yesterday because of the holiday. I need to go back to sleep now to get up to be ready for work at 8 am. I’ll be working until 9 pm, with a similar schedule tomorrow, Wednesday and Thursday.
I don’t even have health insurance.
I don’t. I was interrupted while working on a task, and threw the spray can across the lawn.
These are not full solutions, but will help. Get rid of time thieves and take as good care of your body as possible.
Get rid of social media, contact your friends and family directly if you’re interested in what they have been up to. Try to meet them IRL or talk on a phone call, definitely no Snapchat or such. If you use streaming services, limit your account so they can’t push that “watch the next episode”-crap, only watch what you have time for. Cook your own food, from scratch. Go for walks, sit and relax outdoors even if the weather is not perfect. Take proper care of sleep hygiene, even consider getting a OG alarm clock and ban the smartphone from entering your bed/room. Don’t read news daily, you can’t spend your energy on worrying shit you can’t change.
These are all just ideas and things that have helped me. Might not work for you, but could be worth considering. I hope all the best to you. It’s tough and often unfair.
Drugs, people do drugs /s
I’m assuming you’re american given that you work 3 jobs? If so, I suggest saving some money and move to a place where people aren’t treated like assets or see a therapist. Both options require money ironically enough.
Drugs are pretty nice. Staying up late getting stoned and drinking helps reset my brain. I can even trick myself into cleaning when stoned.
Was doing the therapy thing, but it was so expensive. Also not any good really. CBT is the opposite of ineffective for rumination, at least for me, and for some reason a thorough, researched explanation on my opposition to CBT has never convinced any practitioner to not eventually suggest it/pressure me into it.
I am hoping to save enough to move to another state by August. Part of the maintaining the multiple jobs. Moving is just so expensive. Getting my certifications transferred was a couple hundred dollars alone. Hundred on another test too. I just need to find a job over there and figure out how to move over there. It’s just terrifying leaving my guaranteed side work, having to rebuild a loyal client base, just to make sure I always have a way to get more money in a pinch.
Dunno your specific situation, if working from dawn to late at night is a common occurrence for you, if you need these works even as long as they are, and so on, but maybe consider getting another work, or even leaving some of those 3~4 jobs? You would need to struggle through exhaustion too to go after other opportunities, but still.
And worth noting, work may still be rewarding past the monetary gain, but a balance is required for the remedy to not become a poison. And as exhaustion piles up, one’s life starts going down, such as getting sick more often, getting more easily irritated, getting more apathetic, etc., and it only gets worse.
I only work one job, but the low income means without living with family I’d be homeless. I wish sanity got to be a part in breaking even each month…
Leave murica
Lol
How much privilage do you have that you can just pack up and leave?
Looking at their post history I would guess this is a 13 year old with terrible grades who found Mommy’s phone.
Block it
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Three and a half jobs… Obviously I don’t know the full situation but you must be living well outside your means. Whatever money sinks you have, get rid of them if you can. Nobody should need to work three or more jobs. I’d argue nobody even needs to work two jobs but sometimes it’s unavoidable or one is a personal project which wouldn’t be possible without income from the other.
Sort your finances out so you can work less and you’ll be happier.
The president nixed the SAVE act, and my state made it illegal for trannies to be teachers.
I cannot budget around paying for a degree for a job that they decided I wouldn’t be allowed to have after I graduated.
I darn my socks and clothes instead of throwing them away. I don’t eat out unless it’s something like pizza and it can be ate over several days. I don’t go out - don’t go to events.
It’s great that you have never had to struggle, but you are making a shit ton of assumptions with zero knowledge.
Sorry if I came across like that (I still think 3½ jobs is too many just for a roof and food, but maybe that’s normal for America - for a European, it sounds insane). That’s a shitty situation to be in and I feel for you. The US sucks right now, unfortunately the only two options are to move to a country (or at least state - seriously, what sort of law is that? I sort of understand where it could come from but it makes no sense) which doesn’t persecute trans people, or ride it out and hope the next administration reverses all the terrible things that lunatic has done. The first is expensive and the second isn’t great either. I hope your situation improves.
