• HauntedCupcake@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I think there’s a line where it crosses over. Being “in shape” definitely makes you more attractive to women. Being anything above that definitely appeals more to men, and for many women even makes you less attractive

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      2 months ago

      Yes. Generally speaking, women will find a person who is healthy and reasonably physically fit more attractive than someone who is obese or unhealthily thin.

      The problem is that the point of diminishing returns on actual body building happens pretty fast. Some women do prefer guys who are big piles of muscle, but that’s a minority.

      I learned that from experience. The reason “work out until somebody loves me” works is because you’re giving yourself time and learning to be a person who is fine being alone, not because of hours in the gym.

      • Semi-Hemi-Lemmygod@lemmy.world
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        2 months ago

        learning to be a person who is fine being alone

        This is rarely mentioned but very important. If you’re not okay with being alone you’ll be desperate, which is very unattractive to just about everybody.

        Once you’re fine with being alone the next step is finding someone who’s even better than being alone.