I’m (19F by the way, not like 50) a bad texter. I can be not dry when I want to be, but usually I’m just not up for texting. I really don’t engage with my friends. (I’m asocial).
I don’t participate in their activities. I don’t really ask them how they are, or what their interests are. I don’t even engage in deep discussion with them unless I’m up for it.
When my friend sends a video that reminded her of me or that she finds funny, I don’t click it and just ignore it.
Maybe my friends are growing apart and they text me less because of this, but I’m kind of okay with that because I know they will be there for me when I need it and because I’m genuinely just tired/bored most of the time.
One time, my friend asked me if I’d like to spend time with her, and I just point-blank said “No”. IDK if that’s rude just because I’m being honest and also because it’s not personal, I don’t want to engage with anyone.
Spot on.
Only thing I’d change is when turning down an invite, act like you wanted to but can’t (even if the reason is you’re tired).
“Oh, man, I’d love to go, but I’m wiped. Need to get some sack time”. This may seem disingenuous, but it really isn’t - you’re not going because you need that recharge time, just phrasing it in a way others can understand, and making it clear you’d like to do such things in the future.