my dad specifically has really been feeding into hypermasculine, gun-loving, “true American” MAGA nonsense. I am gay and while he has no issue with me or my partner he continues to align himself with people who do not believe in my right to exist. He didn’t believe Elon did a nazi salute. He said I was listening to the liberal propaganda. Now that trump has pulled out all the stops and continues to implement project 2025, I question whether I can still be in contact with him. Even if he is not (outwardly) rooting on everything, him not condemning what is happening to me seems like he is doubling down on his beliefs.
I am drained mentally and honestly think that he will continue supporting the destruction of this country and the rights of millions all because he idealizes their “alignment” with masculinity, guns, the military, traditions, etc.
How do I approach the topic with him and tell him it’s either me or these beliefs/trump? Is that selfish of me? I know some people say that this will only further the divide but honestly I feel like things now are irreperable and I should not be involved with people who turn a blind eye to fascism.
Do you need to change your father’s mind? Can’t you just spend time together and not talk about politics?
Yes, your requiring people in your family to agree with you or you will leave them.
If someone associates with a group that won’t accept my right to exist, I wouldn’t want them in my life either. I guess I’m a selfish bastard, too.
OP didn’t indicate their father didn’t think they had a right to exist.
He’s voting and supporting the people who claim he doesn’t though. OP is like a Jew in 1930s Germany who has a friend that supported the Nazi party while at the same time never having raised an issue with him being Jew. While he might directly not believe that OP doesn’t deserve to live, he’s giving power to people who do.
No, they didn’t, which is why that’s not what I said.
Here’s what OP said:
he has no issues with OP or their partner; He is still family, and he is amenable to OPs lifestyle…
If you apply a political purity test to everyone around you, you will quickly run out of friends and family - not everyone is going to match every single ideology you have.
Whatever. If you want to pretend not to get it, that’s on you, bud.
I understand it, I get it, I just don’t agree.
I don’t cut people out of my life because of their political views. I cut them out because they are racists, bigots, transphobes, fascists, and just terrible people. There are zero excuses to support a rapist who’s agenda is entirely around hurting people, fraud, and destabilizing geopolitics. Hanging with a Trump supporter and not talking about politics, is like hanging out with a Nazi and not talking about the Holocaust. At the end of the day, you’re just hanging out with a Nazi.