I’m not much for trigger warnings, but this probably deserves one. Animal death with firearms.
I have to put Peppa down on Sunday. She is an elderly potbelly rescue. Finished her grave yesterday.
The first time I had to kill a puppy, I was 15. I guess my boss thought it was funny. Worked on a tater farm. It was a fluffy black lab mix. Did it with a .22 rifle. My first shot didn’t do it, second did. I didn’t throw up, but felt like it. I guess it was supposed to make me tough or something.
I have put down other pets since then. Usually for a neighbor. Doing it for a pet that I’m not connected to is easier. I required that they be in the yard but didn’t have to watch. I learned to use buckshot, it’s unpleasant for me but the poor baby feels nothing.
I’m from a particularly deep part of the south. I have lived in trailer parks and poverty. When you can’t afford to go to the doctor, the critters don’t go to the vet.
Am a hunter, squirrel and deer. While I’m always a little sad when I kill, I don’t have a deep connection to the animal. I do it cleanly as I can and will use a knife for mercy. I have only ever taken one trophy, an albino squirrel. I cried when I killed it and I don’t think I’ll ever take a trophy again. Meat and pest control.
As my finances have improved, I no longer had to put down family pets. We moved last August, we’re behind on Dr visits for ourselves and haven’t found a new vet. I have called every vet in town and the town over. I can’t get them to come out and euthanize Peppa, no prior relationship. I’m also not willing to take Peppa to the vet. Pigs travel poorly and I’m not having that be her last experience. Fucking sucks.
I dug her grave 48-42" (surface slopes 6") deep until I hit a sheet of rock. Cut it through clay that is 1’ under topsoil. That’s serious work. It sits over a creek, you can’t quite see the spot from the house. It’s pretty there, you can hear the creek and there’s wild rose. I found a chunk of marble embedded in the surface a few feet from where I was digging. There is also a pile of cobbles that I was going to use to cover the grave. I thought they’d been dumped. Also found a wood stake marker. It’s a good spot and I’m not the first to put a loved one there.
My entire body is sore.
We were supposed to help move Peppa for a friend that worked with a rescue. My girl had two potbellies when we got together and our friend hadn’t worked with pigs.
Peppa’s original owner committed suicide. Her husband fed her hay, not an acceptable diet. Peppa had been in a 4x4’ pen for a long time in her own filth. I had to cut the vines off the gate to get her out. It was bad. My girl gave me the look and Peppa came home with us. Peppa makes squeaky noises like a rubber duck when she’s happy. She has hip arthritis, likely from her previous living conditions, and it has now progressed. Early on, she bit my wife and put her in the ER. She is now a total sweetie pie.
Our piggies live like queens. They have a yard and a 7x20’ room in the barn. The entrance is a ramp as they’re all older. It’s enclosed and serves as an airlock with two flaps. They have what I call a canopy bed, it’s a big box I built with insulation on all 6 sides. The roof is on a pulley and there is an electric chicken heater in it. Like a heat rock for a lizard. They get kerosene heat in their palace when it gets much below freezing. Have a wireless thermometer inside their bed, when it’s 10deg F it’s 50deg in bed.
Pigs are so smart. Smarter than smartest dog you’ve ever met. They’re sapient. They feel and love and want like children want things. They scheme and hold grudges and get mad. I really don’t want to do this shit but I don’t see where I have much choice. I’m not going to stuff her tired old sore bones into a terrifying ride.
Sunday we’re going to let her gorge on Cheetos and Oreos and all the junk she wants. Going to give her a large dose of the tranquilizers we had from the move. When she gets good and deep asleep in the sun, she won’t wake up. My family will be inside. I shroud her in plastic and then a fleece blanket. My family will help me bury her.
I rarely cry, but this has me nine kinds of fucked up. Just sitting here with tears running down my face and when I was digging that fucking hole.
Peppa is a part of my family. My wife used to work hospice. We have an agreement that if one of us gets dementia or Alzheimer’s, we have to put the other down. I’m selfish, I hope I go first of a stroke or something.
I dread this. I’m Daddy and I do the hard things. Fucking sucks.
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I’ve had to put animals down before, when something would happen that was so sudden that waiting for a vet would be cruel. It never, ever sucks any less.
So, I definitely sympathise here.
One thing I’ve found though, doing the burying instead of cremation or someone else doing it; it helps the grieving. Back when I was younger, I couldn’t do the work, so when we’d lose an animal, my dad did it. Those experiences of grief resolved in a more painful, extended way than when I did the work myself.
And, having had a dog die under vet care, and then having a necropsy done because we and the vet wanted to know what happened, comparing the grief process to when other animals were put down and buried, it just hits different.
My experience, the most grief friendly process is at home euthanasia. It can be tough to find a vet that does it at all, but it was worth it when my last dog needed it. Like you said, who wants their last experience to be going to a vet’s office?
But the burial process. The digging, the shaping of the grave, placing them in with little mementos and watering the soil with tears as it’s filled in. It’s a powerful thing. It’s beautiful in its own way. There’s a finality to it that makes the death real in a way I can’t express. Without it, I always feel like something was wrong, that I didn’t do the right thing, and have more times where I forget they’re gone.
I’m sorry you’re losing your friend. But I’m also glad your friend had love like that; and that, as hard as it was and will be, that you’ll have those last moments and know that you did exactly what that love deserves.
3 weeks ago (February 18th), me and my girl’s Sphynx cat died unexpectedly and dramatically (literally took his last breath in my arms).
He was only 10 years old with no prior obvious health issues.
He was like a son to us and the most sweet and gentle being that ever was, and we’re still all fucked up.
Yesterday, my in-laws call my girl (we live in the same apartment building) and kind of ambush us into pushing them into making the decision to put down their almost 16 year old Shar pei, who again, was just the sweetest boy.
I’ve been sobbing uncontrollably in between doing routine shit for the last three weeks, and today I just woke up feeling done with this fucking life.
I know it’s not the same, but nevertheless, just wanted you to know you’re not alone shoveling shit. And I’m sorry you have to go through this.
It kinda is the same. It’s grief. Just dredged up some shit I didn’t want to have to process, so I dumped it on y’all, in my case. Didn’t sleep a wink, but I’m feeling a little better. Can’t fuck up my schedule so I’m going to check my groundhog traps when it gets light and work on the kid’s 3D printer.
Everybody is different in processing grief. I tend to crawl off like a cat and be solitary in it in person. I text and write about it to strangers, it helps me get the poison out and doesn’t hurt anyone.
We have a little cat named Lulu. She’s a special cat, deadliest mouser, feral but loving personality. Only ever had one other like her. We plan to get a sample taken and stored, if we can afford it, we’ll get her cloned. At least that’s what we tell ourselves. Don’t want to think about that. I’ll pay cat tax but only if you ask. Can I see your Sphynx?
Also, that’s fucked up by your in-laws. You shouldn’t outsource the decision unless it’s the vet telling you. And recently after y’all had loss? Who’s the parent in this? I’m judging people I don’t know but that doesn’t sound ethical at all.
Here’s a picture of Nito in his favorite jammies (we still have them).
I don’t think they did it deliberately (the in-laws). I think they needed someone external to be with them when they made the decision, so they could be sure it was the right one (which it was, as any competent vet would say).
In any case, I don’t really judge them for it, and even though it was very emotionally draining, I understand the impulse.
But you’re right, grief is a motherfucker, and everyone has to do it in their own way and in their own time, ain’t no way you’re escaping that looming shadow, unless you’re a psycho, of course…
I hope you feel better. Hopefully better days lie ahead.
I’m happy to see Peppa is so loved. I hope your ok through this difficult time.
Putting a beloved pet down is always the hardest part of pet ownership :c
