context: i met this girl on tinder who’s is on the spectrum, we talked for a bit and then exchanged our ig accounts, but she hasnt replied since. I dont understand what happened, if shes just busy, needs time or lost interest. I have no way to tell and im too scared to ask. What should I do?
thats true but i guess I’ll have to be patient. I realized long ago that the blue moon comes when you don’t expect it, every time
Patience is a virtue, but in this case, sitting on your hands and waiting weeks/months/years until you get another match is not a winning strategy. If you aren’t getting many matches, you need to do the things which will result in getting more matches. Which means getting a better tinder profile. Which means becoming a hotter, more interesting guy, and accumulating high quality photos of yourself being hot and interesting.
Any dating advice that doesn’t start with “make yourself into the kind of person that the kind of person you want to date wants to date” is garbage advice. In the dating marketplace, you can’t be out there looking for “the one” who will just accept you just as you are no matter what. First of all, because these people are incredibly rare. Second of all, because people with such rock bottom standards typically have those standards because they are lonely, because no one wants to date them, because they are walking red flags. And third, because if you ever actually find “the one”, you will perpetually live in fear of losing them because “you’ll never get a chance like this again”, which leads to being a needy little bitch that caters to all their partner’s whims.
Don’t do that! Just make yourself more appealing, and then you’ll have options.