Both strangers or people you know?
As often as I can, people deserve to feel good.
Nice job.
God I really should, I just dont want to sound creepy.
Try making complimemts throwaway statements, like theyre a gemeral fact and not the focus of a coversation. I feel like thats the reason some compliments come off as creepy, plus don’t be overly familiar.
Same. I recently met a wonderful woman who I’ve become very good friends with. When I first met her, I was interested in maybe dating her, so I was very careful and selective with the compliments I gave her because I didn’t want to sound like a creep (and I’m autistic so I’m bad at judging what’s okay to say). After I asked her out and she rejected me, we agreed to just be friends, and I suddenly felt far more okay openly complimenting her in many different ways. It feels really good to give someone a genuine compliment just because you want them to feel good, no strings attached.
Yet another great benefit of friendship! Good on you.
Dude, I feel the exact same. I basically never compliment anyone ever. Sometimes I want to but I’m afraid of sounding weird so I don’t. I’m not likely to be someone who looks like they could come off as creepy, but still I have a hard time with it.
My wife: daily.
Others: sometimes.
You look great today OP
Are you the CIA agent assigned to me?
Lovingly watching you. Every second of your life.
I’ve been recently practicing voicing my favorable opinions on people to them. I’ve found I think nice things about people, and what is the reason why I wouldn’t share that. Seems to just give them a little boost while also creating a better social bond.
That’s cool!
Try it out yourself. Some people react strange to the out of nowhere compliments, but not that they regretted hearing it. A lot of the things I am saying are simple things like “Wow you strike me as very intelligent” “You smile with your whole face” “You have such an awesome sense of style”
Its been really good for me too since a lot of times I meet people and my immediate reaction is to be intimidated since I see so many of their positive qualities quickly, telling them the things I notice about them actually helps me retain my confidence in those situations too since I am the one being a beacon of positivity.
Like with most things in life, putting in effort pays out.
Erryday. Do it, if you’re nice and/or clever people will often enjoy being positively singled out.
Edit: ideally, you should look approachable. Not sure to what extent this is more of a quirk of mine but I’ve not really run into problem with it
Exactly, make someones day better
Its fun. Sometimes you can even tease a little bit as long as the overall tenor is friendliness and curiosity and being fun. Strong rapport-building is a must tho if you wanna operate on this “advanced” level :/
A few times a week, on average. Not much to compliment on because at this point I’ve complimented on almost anything that comes to mind.
When I made this post, I knew you’d pop up. Idk who you are lenny but youre always around and its amazing.
I actually thought ‘call me lenni’ will be one of the first 5 people to comment here and checked if you were a mod here!
Edit: same for cheese greater and 1984, still might see kolanak
Aww thanks <3
So far I’m just a mod in !casualconversation@lemmy.world and !downvotedtooblivion@lemm.ee but am open for more positions.
If you ever want to know more about me, you’re always welcome to ask anything (even here if you’d like).
Daily.
Not enough.
Almost zero. Sometimes I try to make a conscious effort to, but that goes up and down with energy
Probably at least once a day? Not usually at men (so sorry, I know this is a problem for guys) unless I am confident they are not going to read more into it. I do feel old enough to be able to sometimes compliment younger guys, and have it received as just friendly not flirting.
As someone else said - compliments on choices or achievements not personal attributes. Though usually it is on looks stuff “What a good hair day you are having”, or “that is a really good color for you” or “great shoes!” not “what a nice figure you have.”
Work compliments I hand out freely, if someone does a good job that makes my job easier I try to always mention it, compliment the work and thank them.
There’s a high chance a semi-normal guy won’t read deeper into it.
But he will hold onto it for years and years.
Nice tits.
I’m joking. Never do that.
Edit: oh, how often. As soon as they do something I appriciate. It’s easy to be kind.
This is the way, it’s easy and at times even contagious!
unsure abou how often; I don’t do it because I have to meet a quota, it’s more of a I-can’t-hold-to-myself-when-I’m-✨bedazzled✨ kinda thing?
Although as others have mentioned, I don’t wanna sound creepy; for strangers it’s generally about a cool accessory they’re wearing. i verbalize the compliment by refering to their uniqueness, not intending to start a conversation just, “cool hat 👍”
interesting question, thanks!
Frequently, but I’m a little old lady.
If you want to practice, “cute shoes!” or some equivalent is generally a safe choice. “Those sneakers look really fast!” “Love the socks!” “Stylin’ those shoes!” “Those sandals look really comfortable, and I love the sparkle!”
Because shoes are almost always a choice, and you don’t have to make eye contact or avoid looking at other body parts. Just don’t make it about their feet, or anything else they were born with, unless you’re really familiar.
I feel like i’m much more comfortable complimenting people I don’t know other than my gf most of the time despite being someone who likes to complimemt people. Even if it comes off as flirty apparently
