It’s often good! giggle

Only monogamous relationship for me, yeah.

I did try other options, friends with benefits and stuff, but nothing actually compares to me, not even close, with the partner who intimately knows me, cares about me on all levels, and knows of all the things that turn me on.

Besides, sex in relationships is a continuation of a deeper feeling, a way to express love and a special kind of gentleness. Yeah, I’d say sex is very romantic to me.

But nothing bad with other options if you’re into it! Monogamous folks are often portrayed as boring puritans who tell people what to do, so I’ll stress that - you do you, but my drive works this way. And boy can monogamous sex get kinky…

No, as I said, I do not welcome hookups and would not appreciate if she’d go randomly fucking with everyone before dating me.

That’s my point - those are not “unexpected hook-ups” (I never feel comfortable with those), those are events in a relationship they could absolutely prepare for, and something that normally comes with a greater level of intimacy.

Changing a bed is unreasonably costly, materially and financially, besides, bed is not necessarily associated with sex.

Getting new condoms is a matter of spending beer money at a nearest pharmacy.

Heavily doubling down on everything you say here!

I am big, too, and that DOES NOT MEAN I AM NOT GENTLE!

Those who know me close, of course, know me as a cuddly and kind and gentle person; girlfriend knows more about it, including sexual stuff, and loves me for that, to which I am very grateful.

Interesting you mentioned your wife drove to see you - I just recently came back from seeing my girl, around 700 miles away, and finally, October to November, she will be able to move in with me. You just added some bright hopes :)

Yeah, had to mention vibrators or something else that was exclusively used on her is generally fine.

To be clear - this is not a sign of insecurity, not retroactive jealousy, either. This is just a simple wish to not interact with anything sexual used by the other guy I never chose to be intimate with and who can be gross to me, even if this is a pack of otherwise separate condoms. Like, it’s not hard or expensive to replace - just buy a damn pack at the nearest pharmacy - and regardless of how much your partner cares, you won’t lose anything either way. And I feel like I’m not the only person in the world caring for such matters.

I feel like as much as we try to make it less of a deal, this is just innately uncomfortable for many - not through insecurities it’s often written off to, but rather through the nature of the intimate, of the highly personal. I want for our sex life to be ours alone in all aspects, not because someone else was “better” - I seem to be good and skillful and attractive - but because they, for all their previous experience with her, are not invited.

Also, heavily agree on vague answers and signs that partner is pressured. This is a no-go.

Vagina may not always be wet enough. Not all women produce enough lube, even when much aroused. It essentially boils down to physiology.