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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • What matters is the signals she gave him and how he read and responded to them.

    If she gave signals of “please leave me alone” then whether he’s creepy or not depends on how he responded, regardless of how he looks.

    Him being a positive and personable presence near her over a stretch of time, especially if she gave signals of being in the neutral-to-positive range towards him, is fine. The most important thing is that if he eventually shot his shot - and the response was “no thank you” - that he accept this answer gracefully.

    Lots of women actually prefer to meet guys through their social circle because it’s an easier way to meet guys who their friends can give their own impressions about and who are less likely to be assholes. It sounds like it turned out well here, although we’re missing a lot of information.






  • I’m going to use those things as answer machines and you can’t stop me.

    Jokes aside, I always validate what chatbots tell me, not even just important things. I use GPT-4 for work and 90% of the time it can show me how to use very specific functions in complex ways, but yesterday (for the first time in awhile) it made up a function that didn’t exist. To its credit, I said, “Are you sure about [function]?” and it said, “I’m sorry, I got confused. That function doesn’t exist. However, look into X, Y, Z for further resources” and I did and they were the correct things to look into.










  • I think the fundamental question is, as the Fediverse gets more popular, then how will servers get paid for? Here are some possibilities I see for how Fediverse hosting could work at scale:

    • Surviving off donations alone: Possible but in my estimation unlikely, and it could veer into the territory of big donors having a controlling stake or exerting their interests.
    • Instances limiting number of users to what they can afford: This would require the network of instances process to really work well.
    • Big instances selling advertisements: Without oversight or moral commitment, this could easily go towards creepy personal data collection.
    • Crowdsourcing the costs: This would require transparency and fundraising or some other model
    • Hosts financing the operation in other ways: This could also easily get into creepy data collection practices or other dark patterns.

    I hope we come up with some process or plan for avoiding the pitfalls and forging an honest and community-integrating way forward.