• thepixelfox@kbin.social
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    11 months ago

    3 year age gap is nothing. I don’t understand people’s need to be disgusted by or police consenting adults.

    There’s 15 years between me and my partner. Both 30+ so both very much consenting adults. But Christ, you still get people chirping with the ‘power differential’ bullshit. Like seriously, you’d think I was 13 the way people go at the age gap. Then again, that was when I actually used Reddit so.

    People are always gonna be outraged by something stupid.

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      11 months ago

      People who spend too much time on the internet, are often young, don’t have that much experience of the real world, but do have a disproportionate voice online. That’s why you’ll read plenty of dumb shit on the internet when it comes to relationships.

      Luckily most of them outgrow this nonsense by actually living life. They join the work force, they make friends, they fuck, they fall in love. Unfortunately rather than living life and growing, some people become terminally online. They spend all day on the internet talking about life rather than living it. Afraid of getting hurt, or because they were hurt and decided never again, they are destined to wake up one day and realise they’ve wasted what could have been the best years of the life.

      It’s sad, but it is what it is.

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        11 months ago

        I dated a work colleague and people wouldn’t shut up about that either. I honestly think they spent more time thinking about it than we did. It wasn’t like she was my boss or anything so I wasn’t quite sure why it made any difference.

        They kept saying it would be awkward if we break up, but then there were people in the company I already hated and I didn’t need to sleep with them to come to that conclusion.

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      11 months ago

      Uh, if you were 13 and your partner 28, yep, that would be a “problem.”

      I put it in quotes because I guess it depends on the region’s age of consent.

      But my point is that an age gap can be significant depending on how old both parties are at the time.

      Having said that, there was an 11 year old gap between me and my partner, but she was already in her mid-30s, so, no biggie.