She brought her oldest daughter (22) with her. Her daughter had surprised visited her and I guess she didn’t want to tell either of us no to tonight. Her kid was pretty cool, and apparently gave me a glowing review by calling me “a walking green flag”. 🤣

She paid for dinner, which was unexpected. I knew I should’ve gone for the lobster. 😏 To be fair, I paid for drinks.

After dinner, and after her daughter went back home, we sat outside and talked for a couple of hours. We eventually decided to go back inside to get drinks, and she ran into a friend of hers at the bar. So we three spent the rest of the night talking and shooting the shit; we all shared our “war stories” from our marriages and raising our kids as single parents, and I got some good insights about women that I didn’t know I needed, and I found out that I’m a pretty boring guy. 😝

We walked her friend to her car, and my date and I sat on the tailgate of my truck and just talked until 3; then I drove her home.

What made it super interesting is that she flat out said that she feels she would have nothing to bring to a relationship, and that if anything she wants to be friends. But as the night went on, she also kept touching me (non-sexual) over and over, and even leaning against me at one point. When I dropped her off, she even said how she wanted to do this again soon.

Make no mistake, I did not feel any mixed signals. I believe her when she said she wants to be friends, and I’m okay with that. But I also had a good time, and enjoyed how unconventional everything was. It made the evening more pleasant because I didn’t have to stress about this or that; I just went with the flow and was myself. No preening or posturing. Just two single adults getting to know each other, and maybe becoming friends.

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    Sounds really positive, well done man! I’m sorry you feel like you’re a boring guy, though – and I’m sure that’s not true! Who would choose to hang out with you for that amount of time if you were?

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      The boring guy comment was because of the conversation between my date and her friend, and how they were harping on a specific type of guy that describes me in a lot of ways, but they considered that type as boring. Ergo, I’m boring, but indirectly speaking. I thought it was hilarious.

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        1 month ago

        Ahh I see! Haha, it is tricky when we start to see aspects of a generalisation that we feel apply to us, but I’m glad you took it in good humour!