~500 comments about our instance and admins in the past week. Talk about needing to touch some grass…

  • db0@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPM
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    6 months ago

    This whole thing started because one .ml poster got salty than we removed one post of theirs from piracy and went there to whine as they know hexbear loves to just believe any disinfo that reinforces their dislike. At which point it was a thread full of insults and hate (as usual). When I tried to explain calmly why we actually removed the post, there were a few initial positive interactions which were followed by Americans waking up and starting the bad faith arguments with a bit of ableism sprinkled in for good measure.

    Finally I misused one unwritten rule, once, by following the example of someone who used it towards me (which I respected) which their mod used as an excuse to insult me, remove all my comments and ban me.

    I gave them a piece of my mind for that behaviour and the rest is history.

    This post is the only attention I’ve given hexbear in this instance since months (the second such attention in total) , while they’ve had multiple of them in the past month alone. Not to mention 1000-comment brigades full of toxicity and sealioning in the past year. Hell they even made a thread explicitly to ridicule my pfp for good measure 😁 I’m not even allowed to vent in my own space apparently.

    But sure, we’re immature.

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      I wasn’t saying you were immature, I said the whole situation was. The impetus for the whole thing, deleting of the post, also seemed to make no sense to me at all. But to elevate the situation after that was what I meant was immature really. And from there it just seemed like a schoolyard fight or something, all of it just being a waste of time distracting and taking energy away from everyone involved.

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        Yes it was immature to allow that post in the dunk tank immediately believe the salty person and just start hurling abuse and spreading disinfo about our admins again. Their admins once again dropped the ball, but whatever.

        Maybe you argue we should be the better people and let other just misrepresent us openly to ferment even more hate towards our instance? I don’t quite agree with that and I felt compelled to calmly set the record straight. Was that so wrong?

        Sure, I admit I lost my cool when their admin among all the toxicity they enabled towards us, finally found the flimsiest gotcha to delete all my comments and insult me on top for good measure. I’ll take my “immature” label for that, but I’m only human after all.

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          6 months ago

          Well yes I think all of us should be the better person, obviously easier said than done! I’m not a fan of ridicule or bullying of course (except against actual nazis maybe) and I feel bad if you or anyone has been hurt by harassment. I am mostly just trying to say this sort of infighting is all just taken too seriously, and arguing about ‘tankies’, which can mean any number of things to different people, doesn’t seem helpful to anyone in my view.

          For what it’s worth, like another comment said I do really appreciate the work you and others have done to make this instance possible! I don’t have any resentment for anyone in this situation and I hope hexers and us here can all come together better in the future, we have more alike than in difference.

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            6 months ago

            You know what’s funnier? The reason they’re so obsessed with me is because I don’t take this infighting seriously. I don’t know if any of my comments remained after they banned me, but my modus operandi is to just self deprecate or be sarcastic towards insults. This, it appears, has been intolerable, which is why their admin was looking for any excuse to ban me.

            However what is actually frustrating is the follow up propaganda, where they pretend and keep repeating that they banned me for being “reactionary” and “harassment”, both of which are blatantly false. But they’ll keep repeating it forever now, attempting to character assassinate me every opportunity. It’s this dishonesty I just can’t stomach.

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        6 months ago

        There’s at least 10 threads in hexbear about me and the instance full of insults and disinfo. Also this is not Wikipedia

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          6 months ago

          So what that’s their instance. They can post what they want there just like you can delete their posts here.