It was only roughly 9 months ago when I learnt that I am not my parents biological child. I was born in 1987. To cut the story short, I only got few information about my biological parents. My biological mom is a Filipino. She used to work as a Nurse Attendant somewhere in Lahad Datu, Sabah, Malaysia. She met my biological dad there and he is a Malaysian (other info said that he is a Chinese-Malaysian). When he knew that my biological mom was pregnant with me, he just gave her the money to fly back to the Philippines in order to give birth to me. My biological dad refused to take the responsibility as he was already married with another woman that time. Though I am not really sure of the authenticity of their stories…

I found my biological mom’s whereabouts just a week ago. Unfortunately, she already passed away in 2015. I was able to contact my biological half siblings, and as well as my biological mom’s relatives. I tried to ask for more information about my biological father, but to no avail… The only person who knew him was my biological mom and a friend of hers (who unfortunately died of Covid19).

The purspose of searching my biological parents was only to know where my roots were coming from. I have no intentions of getting my rights from them. In all honesty, I am doing well with my life and grateful of my nonbiological parents for raising me well. I will be more grateful to know my biological dad and curious of what he looks like. I have no intention of ruining his life. I just want to see what he looks like and how he has been all these years.

I hope this is just easy as 123.___

  • Moghul@lemmy.world
    6·
    1 year ago

    The easiest, but probably not cheapest thing to do is to hire a reputable private investigator. Other than that, you might be lucky enough for some of your other relatives to have taken a dna test on some popular platform, but that is a hail mary among hail marys.

    • ChikitaClarita@monyet.ccOP
      1·
      1 year ago

      I heard that too. It’s like looking for a single needle on a field of haystack … I just wish it’s never too late. I hope he is still alive.

  • Chickenstalker@lemmy.world
    3·
    1 year ago

    Do you know of your dad’s full name? Chinese men will keep their family name e.g. Tan, Cheng, Siew. Based on that, you might get lucky if there exist a clan association for that name. From there, you can try to ask the association for info. Chinese in Borneo tend to be Christians too, so you might have some luck searching church records of the parish he might belong to.

    • ChikitaClarita@monyet.ccOP
      2·
      1 year ago

      Unfortunately, I literally don’t have my biological dad’s full name. I only have my biological mom’s name. By then, my dad will remember who she was… I know this is next to impossible , but I really hope that there are other ways where I can find him even without knowing his full name.

    • ChikitaClarita@monyet.ccOP
      41·
      1 year ago

      oh i’m so sorry… I have not read the rules . I am new to this platform and really desperate to look for an answer. Not really familiar with this. I’ll check out for the rules .

  • jetAEnglish
    2·
    1 year ago

    Good luck! It’s a long shot but the ancestory DNA tests may help, not sure how popular they are in Malaysia, but they might tell you about part of your unknown family who could help you fill in the blanks.