I’m ace. Fuck Valentine’s day. I’m as used to getting human coupling shoved in my face as I can possibly get, but today just reminds me how much of an outlier I am.
Asexuality is the one sexuality no one talks about, ever.
I think what the person you’re replying to was hinting at is the common understanding (at least among those with queer-awareness) of the difference between sexuality and romance.
A person could be asexual but still be in a romantic relationship that positively engages with Valentine’s Day.
I commisserate with your awful experience as a child, and that picking up the label of “asexual” probably simplifies the dialogue of explaining your situation. It sounds like your trauma affects you in ways that you are effectively asexual (and possibly aromantic). I’m not a mental health expert, just friends with queer people.
But people will be pedantic about this topic, unfortunately. You’re hitting a cross-heading of people that feel strongly about the specific definitions of these sexualities because of how much dis/misinformation there is from bad actors. There is also the reverse-reasoning that asexuality is because of something, like trauma, instead of a naturally-occuring sexuality.
I don’t write this to demean you, invalidate your experiences, or even to “teach” you, but to hopefully highlight a context from which you and some well-meaning person might align yourselves as opponents.
Bojack Horseman has some good rep, but before that, yeah, I can’t think of anything off the top of my head. An explicit “Ace day” seems silly unless pitched as a self-care day, I guess?
It’s an amazing show with excellent insight. It is silly and lighthearted at times, and an emotional baseball bat to the face at others.
I’ve heard it can trigger depression.
I mean, it’s not like a cursed video tape that kills you, but your mental state may fall a few notches. If you don’t feel emotionally stable, bojack is not a good watch. Take breaks if you need. The later seasons get HEAVY.
I highly recommend it and also never plan to watch it again.
I’m ace. Fuck Valentine’s day. I’m as used to getting human coupling shoved in my face as I can possibly get, but today just reminds me how much of an outlier I am.
Asexuality is the one sexuality no one talks about, ever.
What does valentines day have to do with sexuality? I thought it was about love.
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I think what the person you’re replying to was hinting at is the common understanding (at least among those with queer-awareness) of the difference between sexuality and romance.
A person could be asexual but still be in a romantic relationship that positively engages with Valentine’s Day.
I commisserate with your awful experience as a child, and that picking up the label of “asexual” probably simplifies the dialogue of explaining your situation. It sounds like your trauma affects you in ways that you are effectively asexual (and possibly aromantic). I’m not a mental health expert, just friends with queer people.
But people will be pedantic about this topic, unfortunately. You’re hitting a cross-heading of people that feel strongly about the specific definitions of these sexualities because of how much dis/misinformation there is from bad actors. There is also the reverse-reasoning that asexuality is because of something, like trauma, instead of a naturally-occuring sexuality.
I don’t write this to demean you, invalidate your experiences, or even to “teach” you, but to hopefully highlight a context from which you and some well-meaning person might align yourselves as opponents.
Bojack Horseman has some good rep, but before that, yeah, I can’t think of anything off the top of my head. An explicit “Ace day” seems silly unless pitched as a self-care day, I guess?
Death Stranding, a little. Sam isn’t ace, but because of what happened in his past he can’t be touched and avoids human contact.
Maybe it’s time for me to finally watch Bojack. I’ve always avoided it because I’ve heard it can trigger depression. But maybe it’s time.
It’s an amazing show with excellent insight. It is silly and lighthearted at times, and an emotional baseball bat to the face at others.
I mean, it’s not like a cursed video tape that kills you, but your mental state may fall a few notches. If you don’t feel emotionally stable, bojack is not a good watch. Take breaks if you need. The later seasons get HEAVY.
I highly recommend it and also never plan to watch it again.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaeVq9DGAvc
(should give you an idea of the negativity of the show)